Hello, hello, and welcome to the new mindset who this podcast my name is case Kenny at case.cannyon

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All right, welcome to episode 248. Hello, my friend. Welcome to a fresh new episode of new mindset who this and thank you for listening.

Thank you for listening to my thoughts, my feelings, my perspectives, my mindsets. It really does mean a lot to me that you take the time to listen once a week, maybe twice a week. It really is a surreal feeling and thank you for everyone who's been sharing the spotify rewind or whatever it's called some of the screenshots are insane.

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And I think this is a really simple idea and it'll be really helpful for you if you are single certainly. And also if you are in a relationship because I think it's always always always helpful to get to find to create clarity on again.

And then I think it's always a good idea to create clarity on exactly what it is you're doing what it is you want who you're with why you're with the person you're with.

Right. I don't think that's an unfair expectation of yourself. I think you owe it to yourself. So here's I'll start with the clickbait headline for you kind of the summer here.

In life that the fastest road to being in an okay relationship that's a that's a relationship that is just okay. Right. It's not great. There's no earth shattering love. There's no amazing connection. There's no life changing sex to keep it in line with the 50 shades here.

No, it's just like it's just okay. It's a relationship that you know prevents you from being lonely. It's low key. It's nothing special. So I think the fastest road to being in a relationship like that and unfulfilling relationship like that and okay relationship like that is to pursue what you're told you're supposed to want in a person instead of what you actually want in a person.

That is it. It's the difference between what you're told you're supposed to want in a partner versus what you actually want in a partner.

And this is a big topic and it's one that I've referenced before on the podcast and I did a chapter in my book singles your superpower on this but I've never taken the time to do a full episode on it.

And I figured now is as good a time as any to do to do this because frankly okay relationships are like the enemy. They're the enemy there worse than a situation ship.

An okay relationship is the enemy okay relationships are like the the socks with crocs of relationships. It's just it's just not where you want to be.

Okay relationships that's okay connection okay compatibility okay sex okay future together. No no no I hate that word to okay.

It's like to me my thought process is like you're you're telling me that you're gonna you're gonna work your ass off in life.

You're gonna push yourself in your career and you're gonna work on yourself in your self esteem and your confidence and your compassion and you're gonna learn everything there is to know about yourself in the world around you and you're gonna have all this passion and purpose and success and you're gonna be hilarious and attractive and an absolute catch.

And then you're you're gonna get yourself in an okay relationship and you're gonna stay in it no no I will not allow that for you my friend I will not and you know I know you don't want that for yourself either I know you don't.

Who wants to be in a relationship that by your own admission is just okay I don't think you want that right an okay relationship that's a relationship you're in just so you're not alone that's a relationship you're in so that you don't have to worry about the pressure to be in a relationship.

That's a relationship you're in because you know someone gave you attention and someone was nice to you that's a relationship you're in because you you know you haven't gotten the balls to leave it yet right I'm on what today that's an okay relationship and to the title there are certainly at least 50 shades of okay in relationships they come in all shapes and sizes you know I'm saying so you know there's so many shades of okay.

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