241 - Rethinking the New Year: Why “Changing Yourself” Is the Wrong Goal | Life Happens
Life Happens with Barb & Michelle
Michelle Maros & Barb Schmidt
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🗓️ 20 January 2026
⏱️ 45 minutes
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Summary
You don’t need to reinvent yourself this year 💫
With all the pressure to “fix” your life overnight and become a brand-new version of yourself, we’re taking a different approach to the new year—one that feels grounded, compassionate, and sustainable.
In this week’s episode of Life Happens with Barb & Michelle, we’re answering your questions on how to start the year with clarity and confidence—without stress, overwhelm, or unrealistic expectations. From self-acceptance to pursuing your dreams, this episode is a gentle guide to stepping into a year that loves you back.
💬 Barb shares how she’s redefined purpose and goals in her life, releasing pressure and unrealistic expectations.
💬 Michelle opens up about why self-care can feel “boring,” and how she discovered a practice that actually works in real life.
✨ What We Talk About
- Starting the year intentionally: Releasing urgency, reframing the “new year pressure,” and letting go of unrealistic timelines
- Practicing self-care consistently: Finding what supports you without feeling impractical or forced
- Navigating triggering topics: Knowing your boundaries, honoring your standards, and speaking up when something feels unaligned with your values
- Approaching goals with grace: Breaking your dreams into realistic milestones while staying connected to what you truly want
The pressure to reinvent yourself every January is exhausting. You don’t need a new version of you — you just need more compassion for the person you already are.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hi everyone, welcome back to Life Happens with Barb and Michelle. |
| 0:03.5 | We are as always so grateful that you are back listening and watching with us this week. |
| 0:07.5 | It is the last week of the month. |
| 0:10.0 | We're closing out January of 2026, which is wild, which means it's a Q&A episode, |
| 0:16.0 | which I know you love Mom. |
| 0:17.5 | I do. |
| 0:18.0 | And I love them too. |
| 0:19.0 | So we're so grateful to all of you who have sent in |
| 0:21.2 | questions, asked us things that you want us to clarify or go deeper on. You know, we've spent |
| 0:27.1 | this month talking about practices and habits and nourishing tools to help us start the new year, |
| 0:33.3 | but also to keep us connected to ourselves, our own best friend. And it's been a really fun month |
| 0:39.1 | having these conversations. And I'm excited to dive into the questions. Yeah, I took a little peek |
| 0:43.4 | at the questions. They're amazing. As always. You looked at them? I did. A peek. Just a little peek, |
| 0:48.9 | because I know you like to surprise me with them. But very thoughtful, very heartfelt. |
| 0:54.8 | And just really you can tell that, I don't know, I just feel like we're taken this year |
| 0:59.2 | a little bit differently. I don't know. |
| 1:01.4 | The vibe is different for sure. The vibe is different this year. And I'm not sure if I would |
| 1:05.0 | really quantify it with any other adjectives, but the vibe is different. And I think we all are, |
| 1:10.2 | you know, really, you know, like, |
| 1:15.0 | I don't want to say sinking in. That sounds, that's what I... I was very curious to hear what word |
| 1:18.9 | you were going to use. We're all really, like, grounded. That's the word I'm looking for, |
| 1:23.1 | not sinking in. Ground. Like, feeling really grounded in this year that we're going to control and have |
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