242 - Jen Hatmaker on Having the Courage to Choose Yourself | Life Happens
Life Happens with Barb & Michelle
Michelle Maros & Barb Schmidt
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🗓️ 27 January 2026
⏱️ 60 minutes
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Summary
Divorce breaks a million hearts — including your own.
But sometimes, choosing yourself is the bravest and most healing decision you can make.
What if all it took to change your life was the courage to trust yourself again?
In this week’s episode of Life Happens with Barb & Michelle, we’re joined by NYT bestselling author Jen Hatmaker for an honest, compassionate, and deeply moving conversation about life after divorce, listening to your intuition, and finding freedom on the other side of heartbreak.
Jen opens up about putting her life fully out there — the grief, the courage, the fallout — and what it was like to go from deep personal pain to becoming an instant New York Times bestseller. Together, we explore what happens when trauma finds you… and how ignoring your truth doesn’t make it any less true.
This episode is for anyone who feels stuck, conflicted, exhausted from self-doubt, or quietly wondering if it’s time for something different.
💬 In this conversation, we explore:
- Choosing Yourself: Why freedom and joy begin the moment you decide your needs matter.
- Life After Divorce: The heartbreak, the healing, and the unexpected growth that follows.
- Comfort Over Coaching: Why people often want to soothe us instead of supporting real change.
- The Sunk Cost Fallacy: Why no amount of time, history, or sacrifice is worth staying somewhere that no longer feels right.
- Trusting Your Intuition: How we often gaslight ourselves out of the truth we already know.
- Parenting Through Divorce: Navigating change, honesty, and healing with your children.
- Feeling the Hurt: Grieving what was, what could’ve been, and honoring the pain without getting stuck in it.
Barb and Michelle also share their personal experience navigating divorce as a mother and daughter — and how choosing honesty, presence, and self-trust reshaped their relationship.
✨ This episode is a reminder:
You’re not broken. You’re not weak. And trusting yourself isn’t selfish — it’s necessary.
📖 Order Jen’s memoir, Awake, to go deeper into courage, truth, and choosing yourself:
https://www.amazon.com/Awake-Memoir-Jen-Hatmaker/dp/166808368X
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| 0:00.0 | Today on Life Happens, we're joined by Jen Hatmaker, bestselling author, speaker, and award-winning |
| 0:06.8 | podcaster whose voice has helped millions navigate faith, life, and the courage it takes to evolve. |
| 0:13.6 | From For the Love to her powerful new memoir, Awake, Jen has never been afraid to tell the truth, |
| 0:20.4 | even when it costs her comfort. In this |
| 0:23.2 | amazing conversation, we explore midlife as a renaissance, not a crisis, and what it looks like |
| 0:29.3 | to grieve what was, reclaim agency, and wake up to who you really are. If you're in a season |
| 0:35.7 | of reinvention, this episode is for you. |
| 0:40.3 | Hi everyone, welcome back to Life Happens with Barb and Michelle. We have such a special |
| 0:44.9 | guest with us today. We're so, so excited. Everyone, please welcome Jen Hatmaker to the show. |
| 0:50.3 | Hi, Jay. Yay, yes. Yay. I wouldn't want to say this to like alienate anyone else, |
| 0:58.0 | but I have to say my mom has been so, so, so, and me too, but so very excited. Like, |
| 1:02.3 | she's been looking at this on the calendar to record with you for so long and just so excited to |
| 1:07.0 | chat with you. Thank you. To chat about your book, to chat about life. And it's just |
| 1:12.0 | such a thrill and an honor to have you with us on the show. That is so precious. Thank you so |
| 1:18.3 | much. Well, I feel like you must hear that a lot. I feel like I know you, even though we've never |
| 1:23.7 | met in person. You know, just your energy and your spirit is so infectious that I feel |
| 1:30.0 | like, oh, watching you on Instagram and watching you reading your book. And I think, oh, I feel like |
| 1:35.0 | Jen is a friend. Thank you. I feel like I know you. Honestly, one of the nicest and my favorite |
| 1:41.7 | compliments to get. And so thank you for saying that. And I think I |
| 1:48.2 | appreciate it so much because there's really only just the one version of me. Like there isn't, |
| 1:54.4 | I'm not a different one out here in my world that I live in. Like, it's just this is, |
| 1:59.6 | this is the same gin, like in all my |
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