240. Lies of Submission
Female by Design
Francie Winslow
4.9 • 686 Ratings
🗓️ 20 October 2025
⏱️ 22 minutes
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Summary
God designed marriage as a picture of mutual love, service, and oneness — a reflection of Christ and the Church. Within that, submission is meant to be life-giving: a way we honor and serve one another in love.
But for many women, especially those raised in conservative or evangelical traditions, the teaching of submission took on a very different tone — one marked by fear, silence, and shrinking back. What was intended to be a beautiful expression of trust became, for some, a justification for control or erasure.
In this episode of Female by Design, Francie explores the ideas of submission with humility and curiosity — and how distorted interpretations can affect not only our marriages, but our relationship with our own voice, body, and identity.
This is not a rejection of submission, but a reclamation of it — returning to the kind of mutual, honoring partnership that reflects God's heart.
What you'll hear:
- A biblical vision of submission rooted in love, not hierarchy
- The cultural and theological misapplications that cause harm
- How false teachings of submission can lead to disembodiment and numbness
- What healthy, joyful submission looks like in a thriving marriage
- How reclaiming your voice is part of reclaiming your design
Whether you've struggled with feeling "too much" or "not enough," this episode is an invitation to come out of hiding, and into wholeness — in your faith, your marriage, and your femininity.
Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:
Growth Courses
101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here
201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here
Before (And After) I Do, here
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Female by Design podcast, an honest space for female flourishing. |
| 0:07.8 | I'm Francie Winslow. |
| 0:09.9 | Together we'll explore sexuality and spirituality by God's design, |
| 0:15.8 | healing our relationship with pleasure, our bodies, and our identity as beloved image bearers. So let's take a deep |
| 0:24.3 | breath and step into God's invitation to live fully alive as women, mind, body, and spirit. |
| 0:33.8 | I'm so glad you're here. Hey friends, I'm back. |
| 0:38.0 | It's Francie. |
| 0:38.6 | I've been going through a little series as we're kicking off this new podcast launch with some |
| 0:46.5 | fundamental things that I've learned as I have reclaimed this capacity to walk in more |
| 0:52.6 | vitality as it relates to pleasure, my body, my femininity, |
| 0:56.0 | and my identity as an image-bearing woman of God. So I'm categorizing things that might be a little |
| 1:03.9 | buzzy. A couple buzzwords, but I have come to a point where I feel like these conversations |
| 1:08.6 | have to happen for my health, |
| 1:10.9 | for the health of my home and my daughters. And I wonder if you're feeling the same thing. |
| 1:16.7 | So feel free to listen in. Give me your feedback, thoughts. But this is where I am is really naming |
| 1:23.5 | things that have become spaces of toxicity and lies in my life couched with religious |
| 1:33.6 | support and have really corroded me from the inside out and my ability to walk in confidence |
| 1:39.6 | as a daughter of God. And so I say all these things with the full support of my amazing husband. |
| 1:45.9 | He is the one who's actually coached me along the way the last 20 years into the space of |
| 1:50.7 | freedom and joy as a woman of God. He has been the biggest cheerleader of mine. He is the one, |
| 1:55.7 | the one basically always about five years ahead of me calling me into this space of healing. And it is such a |
| 2:02.2 | beautiful, beautiful gift of marriage to know that in marriage we are married to an imperfect |
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