Today I'm talking to Erica Baso, who is a licensed marriage and family therapist.

She provides therapy to professional women and some men, many of whom feel disconnected, frustrated, or lonely.

She says, our society perpetuates the idea that we must strive to be something other than we are.

To be less aggressive, less emotional, we must strive to be something other than we are.

To be less aggressive, less emotional,

younger looking, thinner, etc.

These strong pressures cause many

to strive to some ideal of perfection.

This leads to the comparison trap,

feelings of never being good enough,

and wondering what you were doing wrong

when everyone seems to be on track in life.

I don't know about you but I definitely succumb to that pressure sometimes and I have tended to be a perfectionist in my life. I don't think perfectionism is anything to brag about.

Brinay Brown says perfectionism is just fear in a fancy coat and I think that's pretty much

what mine is. But we really unpack this and we talk about a lot of the issues that women are facing today like anxiety, burnout, imposter syndrome, perfectionism. We talk about negative self-talk, we talk about missing out on our lives, lack of connection, but we also talk about how to navigate the modern world where we

are going to experience all of these things and live more mindfully, be in the here and now,

how to self-regulate and self-sooth

without reaching for our phone or food

or online shopping or any of the distractions

that we have right in front of us today.

So this episode is full of tips and things that we can implement in our own lives

to deal with a lot of the pressures we experienced today.

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