232. Changing Biased Preferences in Dating or Anywhere Else: An Interview with Damona Hoffman
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
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🗓️ 7 April 2022
⏱️ 46 minutes
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Summary
We all have personal preferences. Do we like a partner who’s tall or short? Do we prefer friendships with people who have similar jobs to ours? Do we like a house in the suburbs or a condo in the middle of the city?
And there’s nothing wrong with preferring one thing to another, whether it’s in dating, friendship, or where we live and work. But it is always worth examining the reasons behind our preferences and, if we want to, working to dismantle any thinking that’s causing us to have them.
Tune in to this week’s episode as celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman and I talk about changing biased preferences in dating or in any other area of your life.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/232
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain |
| 0:16.3 | and get what you want in life. |
| 0:18.6 | And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach, |
| 0:24.7 | Kara Loyenthyle. |
| 0:28.0 | Hello, my chickens. |
| 0:29.6 | I am so excited to have this conversation today. |
| 0:33.8 | You know, I often have people who come on my podcast |
| 0:35.8 | who I know already, and it's actually quite rare |
| 0:39.0 | that we get a pitch and we let the person come on because, you all know very picky about who I let talk to my people |
| 0:46.4 | you know they got to be friendly to thought work anyway so I got this pitch and I was like yes I want to talk |
| 0:51.7 | about this so much this person seems amazing so I'm super excited about this and then I find out she's |
| 0:56.3 | a celebrity dating coach apparently so even better and by the way let me I always say this |
| 1:00.8 | when I do a dating episode even if you're not dating you should listen to this everything is relevant to you it is all a human brain |
| 1:08.1 | Your brain does not have some kind of like dating segment that just turns on like whatever, whatever we're talking about, |
| 1:14.4 | it's gonna be relevant to you |
| 1:15.2 | whether you date or don't date, |
| 1:16.6 | and especially because we are gonna be talking |
| 1:18.3 | about racial bias and dating. |
| 1:20.4 | And as you know, we talk on this podcast |
| 1:22.2 | all the time about internalized bias, how it affects your thought |
| 1:25.3 | processes, how to become someone who can be self-reflective about that and work on that. |
| 1:31.5 | Whatever identities you live in, we all have blind spots because none of us live in nobody is every marginalized identity. |
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