what's up loves welcome to self care and real life a podcast where we obsess over giving

women the tools that they need to choose happiness and create more joyful moments. I am your host

best-selling author and lifestyle blogger Tile Exander and I'm basically your new wellness

hype girl so welcome to the forny. Before we take a deep dive into today's episode I want to

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which is filled with gems that I have curated just for you to help you cultivate life-shifting

healing experiences so let's get right into today's episode. Let's say a friend throws a party

and doesn't invite you for whatever reason or maybe your coworker misses a deadline that

is really crucial to a project that you guys are working on. While these things are very trivial

in the grand scheme of I'm owed an apology history has shown us that if an apology is indeed given

you are more than likely to forgive and eventually forget but let's explore what happens

if the other person basically refuses to say the words that you might need to hear in order to

resolve conflict. When I've talked to people about you know like why it's so hard to forgive others

the response usually is that people don't ever want to feel like they're being taken advantage of.

People feel like the wrongdoing must be accounted for and this idea of forgiving and forgetting

assumes that nothing's wrong nothing happened and the person who wronged you is in fact not wrong.

Well guys I am here to tell you that is just simply simply not how forgiveness works. I am also here

to tell you that there are a number of ways that you can forgive others in very tough situations

and even in conflict without feeling like you're being taken advantage of. So in today's episode

we're going to learn why it's wiser to move on instead of waiting for an apology and how you can

make the first move but before I drop those gems on you here's something that I don't think people

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