229. My Partner Feels Like a Roommate, Now What? with Sheina Schochet from @loveafterbaby
HERself
Abby and Amy
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🗓️ 15 April 2024
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Are you in a phase of your relationship where your partner feels more like a roommate? We know this is a challenge that many of our listeners in this community face. Today we are excited to have Sheina Schochet of @loveafterbaby back on the show. If you haven’t already, be sure to go back and listen to episode 170 when we first had Sheina on.
Today’s discussion is infused with so many tips on everything from what to do if your partnership doesn’t feel like it’s in a strong place to some actions you can take if your partner isn’t open to going to therapy. Since Sheina’s last visit on the show, she has become a Gottman Bringing Home Baby educator and the insights she’s gained from this are tangible throughout our conversation.
What we want you to walk away with from our discussion with Sheina is that being in a rut in your relationship is super common and it’s something that isn’t talked about enough. So if you’re feeling like you are in a low place right now, tune into this episode to learn how to reconnect with your partner and get back to a place where you are able to find the friendship & intimacy in your relationship again.
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| 0:00.0 | In opening this conversation up you want to acknowledge anything they do for the relationship |
| 0:06.0 | you want to show appreciation and it's not just that I'm noticing your faults I'm also |
| 0:10.2 | noticing that you do these things and I want us to be a better team and I know that we |
| 0:18.4 | have it in us because we've done it and we've kind of fallen off because life's busy so how can we approach this |
| 0:25.5 | together in creating the partnership family dynamic life that we want. I'm Amy. |
| 0:35.0 | And I'm Abby, and as women we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. |
| 0:41.0 | But your life isn't supposed to look like hers. Being your best |
| 0:45.4 | self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with |
| 0:49.6 | a purpose. We get vulnerable and real with an honest look into the challenges and triumphs we all face. |
| 0:56.0 | Every woman listening gets the opportunity to choose what life looks like for herself. |
| 1:11.0 | Today on the podcast we have Shaina from Love After Baby back on. If you've been listening for a while, she was on episode 170 and we talked all about keeping love in our |
| 1:16.6 | partnerships after babies come into the picture. |
| 1:20.0 | Shanna has had another baby, more marriage experience, |
| 1:23.6 | and also become a Gottman bringing baby home educator. |
| 1:27.7 | So this is infused with so many tips |
| 1:31.8 | on if you feel like your partnership isn't in a strong place how to |
| 1:36.4 | bring it back together what to do if your partner isn't open to therapy like |
| 1:40.9 | there's a lot of good nuggets in here so now onto the show. |
| 1:46.1 | So today we want to start off by diving into a challenge that we just know our |
| 1:49.6 | community faces so maybe it's in the baby years maybe it's in the little years, maybe it's in the little kid years, maybe some of our community members have older kids and they're still facing it, but it's this idea that your partner starts to feel like your roommate. So instead of just your romantic partner, they're just kind of this person who's there. |
| 2:04.0 | So in your practice, are you seeing that this is pretty common or just help us out with this answer? Yeah, so first of all, this is super common and I also want to say that since the last time I was on this |
| 2:14.7 | podcast, I've had my third baby. I believe I was pregnant last time we spoke, and I also got another |
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