#228: Intimacy After Infidelity
Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex
Authentic Intimacy®
4.9 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 24 September 2018
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
Imagine the stress of being in ministry, a missionary on the mission field, while keeping your sexual sin a secret. (If we’re honest, whether we’re in ministry or not, many of us struggle to keep our sin, our trauma, or our past a secret.) That’s exactly where Troy & Melissa Haas found themselves when Troy’s pornography addiction was exposed. Join Dr. Juli Slattery on this Java with Juli to hear how God met them, healed them, and restored intimacy in their marriage.
Guests: Troy & Melissa Haas
Mentioned: HopeQuest
Are you in a relationship with a man who is struggling with sexual addiction? Both HopeQuest and Be Broken Ministries offer specialized care just for you. Just use the links to connect!
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Java with Julie. I'm Dr. Julie Slattery and I'm so glad that you've joined me. |
| 0:05.0 | Today I'm going to be sitting down with Troy and Melissa Haas, who worked together at HopeQuest. |
| 0:10.0 | HopeQuest is a ministry for men and their wives who struggle with sexual addiction. |
| 0:15.0 | Now through their own story, Troy and Melissa share candidly about their duplicity Troy felt when he struggled with pornography |
| 0:22.0 | actually as a missionary on the mission field. And then the anger Melissa felt that she realized her |
| 0:27.9 | marriage and her life were not going to be what she thought they would be. I want them to |
| 0:32.3 | share how they learn to have true sexual intimacy through a very difficult journey of restoration. |
| 0:38.7 | There is hope and healing in this conversation for every person, no matter what your sexual struggles might be. |
| 0:43.4 | So let's listen in. You run a ministry that it addresses addiction, particularly sexual addiction, |
| 0:51.2 | but also other kinds of addiction. Yes. Yeah, and you were telling me a little bit about it that you've got a residential component, but |
| 0:57.9 | you also have support groups that help people that are just trying to struggle through |
| 1:02.7 | what does addiction look like in my marriage. |
| 1:05.7 | Absolutely. |
| 1:06.4 | Absolutely. |
| 1:06.9 | At HopeQuest, our mission is to help people impacted by addiction, experience |
| 1:12.4 | freedom, hope, and life. And there's no more place that we love to do that in the context |
| 1:16.5 | of marriage. Now, usually people get into this kind of ministry because God has impacted |
| 1:23.2 | their lives in such a way that he's brought freedom. And I understand that that's your story as well. |
| 1:29.0 | Absolutely. |
| 1:30.9 | We've been on our own journey of recovery for 18 years. |
| 1:35.3 | Yeah, that's one of those kind of things where it's not the ministry direction that you've always longed to take. |
| 1:40.8 | You know, we were missionaries in East Africa, and that's what we felt called to do, and that's what we felt God had uniquely put us together to do. |
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