227. Dave Hollis | How to Get Out of Your Own Way

The ONE Thing

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🗓️ 3 February 2020

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Are you the goal setter in your relationship? Over the past few years, we’ve noticed a common challenge at our Couples Goal Setting Retreats: in most relationships, one person is a goal setter and the other is not, one person is open to trying anything and the other is a skeptic. There’s nothing wrong with healthy skepticism, but it’s also important to examine how your natural state can influence your ability — and your partner’s ability — to grow. So, with this natural divide in almost every relationship, how can a couple grow together? Dave Hollis, author of the upcoming Get Out of Your Own Way: A Skeptic's Guide to Growth and Fulfillment and co-host of RISE Together, shares what happened when his partner (past guest Rachel Hollis) started her personal growth journey. While she gained personal momentum, he felt unfulfilled and overcome with fear — and until he confronted the fact that who he was getting further and further away from who he wanted to be, he was stuck. Listen to learn how Dave got out of his own way, and how you can too. To learn more, and for the complete show notes, visit: the1thing.com/podcast. We recorded this conversation as part of our monthly ONE Thing webinar series. Every month, we feature an incredible author so that you can learn directly from them and ask questions. If you want to watch the second half of this interview or sign up for our next FREE monthly webinar, head over to the1thing.com/webinars. In this episode, you will learn... [07:30] The first step towards getting out of your own way [16:30] Why you have to role model success, not force someone to change [18:15] How to use your fear as leverage [27:00] Does it matter if you’re succeeding or failing? [33:00] How you can your partner can support each other by alternating roles [39:15] Why you should stop avoiding that conversation [50:00] Who you can look to for inspiration and mentorship [55:00] What ‘frontloading’ is and how you can leverage it in your life Links & Tools From This Episode Listen: RISE Together podcast Read: Get Out of Your Own Way: A Skeptic's Guide to Growth and Fulfillment (March 10, 2020) Instagram: instagram.com/mrdavehollis Facebook: facebook.com/mrdavehollis LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dave-hollis-b5a48671 Listen "Episode 195: Stop Apologizing for Your ONE Thing | Rachel Hollis" Want to be a founding member? Help us create our next event: the1thing.com/summit Download your 66-day calendar Mentioned in this episode: Factor 75 Head to FactorMeals.com/one50 and use code one50 to get 50% off. That’s code one50 at FactorMeals.com/one50 to get 50% off! Factor 75

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0:00.0	Hey folks Jeff Woods here, we wanted to let you know pay attention in the middle of this episode. We have a really exciting update around a founding members opportunity that we are going to have for a brand new event concept that we'll be launching this year.
0:15.3	Head on over to the One Thing.com slash summit to learn more.
0:21.7	This is the One Thing podcast where we teach you the surprisingly simple truth behind
0:26.5	extraordinary results.
0:28.0	I'm your host, Caitlin Less.
0:31.8	Over the past few years, as we've hosted several couples goal-setting retreats,
0:36.0	we've discovered a very common challenge.
0:39.0	In most relationships, one person is a goal-setter and one is not.
0:43.0	One is more growth-minded and the other might naturally be more skeptical.
0:48.0	I am a born skeptic and I'm partnered with a man who seeks growth voraciously and without hesitation.
0:54.1	The born believer in him will try anything once even if it sounds crazy.
0:58.0	Whereas my skeptic shows up to poke holes in things and ensure that it's credible,
1:01.9	I want to understand the downside. While we make a
1:04.7	good team and there is nothing wrong with a healthy skepticism, it's important to
1:08.8	examine how your natural state can influence your ability and your partner's ability to grow.
1:15.3	Because the truth is that if one person is growing and the other is stuck, the delta between
1:20.1	you gets bigger and bigger every day. So here's the question. How do you grow
1:25.9	together? The conversation you are going to hear today originally happened on the
1:30.5	one-thing monthly webinar. This is a webinar series where each month we interview
1:34.8	a best-selling author live and give you
1:36.9	the chance to interact with them and ask questions.
1:39.6	Many of you heard episode 195
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