Kids want iconic parents.

Your friends want iconic friends. Your neighbors want iconic

neighbors. They don't know this but they do. I've been doing an experiment with a

friend of mine where when we start to beat ourselves up about something

instead we flip it and we say that was so iconic of me. So normally when we leave messages to each other

back and forth all day every day. So normally I might say something like you

know I committed to get a few things done before I

went to this one doctor's appointment today and I just did not get out of

bed. I didn't get it done. Now I'm behind. I have five emails about this it's a real problem. I'm such an idiot and we are we did an experiment where we replace the phrase

I'm such an idiot with I'm so iconic I'm so iconic I'm so iconic I just

could not get out of bed you guys you guys this is one of the most life-changing things I've ever done. What's

interesting too is hearing my friend say it is it it also boosts my mood until we started doing this I didn't realize how it was a very subtle almost imperceptible

energy dip when I would hear her is, she is a great person, I know she's doing her best,

she's a very conscientious person, she's a great mom, and when I would hear her to say things like,

man, I'm just so lazy,

or I'm just so stupid for not getting that done,

or I just can't believe I screwed this up again,

I'm always, it's great to vent,

I'm always there for her to vent but it I didn't even notice it but it

I didn't even notice it but it would just kind of drag me down a little bit

because in the back of my mind it was like but she's not an

idiot but she's not horrible but she's not lazy and whenever you are not

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