221. Jessica Pan on Making Friendships as an Introvert

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🗓️ 19 February 2024

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

Today’s conversation has been a long time coming because it is something that we’ve talked a lot about in the past but we’ve never really taken the time to fully dive in on this subject. And that’s the idea of how an introvert can make adult friendships.

Our guest, Jessica Pan, is a journalist and the author of the book Sorry I’m Late, I Didn’t Want to Come. She is also a self-proclaimed introvert who took a year of her life to explore what being more extroverted might be like. If you too are in the position where you want to engage with more people, make new friends, or speak up more at work - she has some really valuable tips throughout this episode.

We cover everything from defining the difference between an introvert and an extrovert to where to find other introverts who are also looking to meet new friends. Jessica shares whether or not she thinks being an introvert has to do with how you were raised and if she thinks you can change this personality trait. If you are in the beginning steps of trying to expand yourself, Jessica coaches you through three steps you can take to put yourself out there and meet new people!

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0:00.0	I think fighting too hard against your nature can be exhausting, but I also think it's important to explore both sides.
0:07.5	So even the most hardcore introverts, we know that they will benefit from social interaction, right, from having a living partner or having close friends.
0:16.5	That is not limited to extroverts.
0:18.5	Introverts definitely need that and they want that, even if they think they don't't research says that actually they really do like it.
0:29.2	I'm Amy and I'm Abby and as women we are constantly comparing ourselves to others.
0:36.0	But your life isn't supposed to look like hers.
0:39.0	Being your best self means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with
0:44.4	a purpose. We get vulnerable and real with an honest look into the challenges and
0:49.5	triumphs we all face. Every woman listening gets the opportunity to choose what life
0:54.7	looks like for herself. Today's conversation has been a long time coming because we have talked about this
1:05.8	subject a lot without covering it in depth and it's this idea of how do introverts make adult friendships. So today's guest is
1:16.0	Jessica Pan. She's a journalist and an author of the book, Sorry I'm Late, I
1:20.6	didn't want to come. And a self-proclaimed introvert. So we jumped in with her and
1:26.7	learned so much about how she she had a year it was like the year of yes chondor-yme
1:32.4	style where she was like for a year I'm going to try to be more extroverted and so in this interview we dive into that and she gives a lot of tangible tips if you're in the position where you want to start to engage with
1:46.1	more people, make more friends, speak up at work more. She has some really valuable tips.
2:07.6	Jessica, we are really. really podcasts, we want to really dive into introversion. And it goes without saying, but we also want to say right away, there's nothing wrong with being an introvert. But it was your experience that you had a time in your life that you felt really lonely and that was a turning point for you and it kind of led you into writing your book. So we want to know what started you on your quest
2:26.0	to be more extroverted.
2:28.9	Well, I think you're totally right.
2:30.0	There's nothing wrong with being an introvert.
2:31.4	I am still a self-defined
2:33.9	hardcore introvert for sure, so I do want to put that up front. I think what started me on this
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