#217: The Missing Piece in Your Healing Journey

On Attachment

Stephanie Rigg

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.9 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 3 December 2025

⏱️ 18 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, we explore what it really takes to create meaningful change — especially in those seasons where everything feels hard, familiar patterns keep looping, and no amount of “trying” seems to make a difference.

We talk about the inner environment required for real change, and why self-compassion isn’t the opposite of accountability — it’s the foundation of it.

You’ll hear about:

Why we default to shame when we feel stuck
The myth that self-criticism leads to better behaviour
How shame overwhelms an already stressed nervous system
Why being on your own team is essential for honest self-reflection

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00:00 Introduction 04:13 Why Self-Judgment is So Common06:32 Understanding and Validating Anxiety08:49 The Role of Self-Compassion in Growth11:58 Isn't Self-Compassion Self-Indulgent?

Transcript

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0:00.0	You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.
0:19.7	I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,
0:23.1	and I'm really glad you're here.
0:29.4	Hey, everybody.
0:30.5	Welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.
0:33.7	Today's episode is the first episode that I'm recording
0:36.2	since arriving back in Australia.
0:38.1	Some of you might know I've been traveling in Europe for the last three months, and I literally
0:42.3	landed back in Sydney last night, drove home from the airport, which is a couple of hours for
0:47.8	us.
0:48.7	We got in at about 9pm.
0:50.5	We are heavily jet lagged, so I slept from maybe 1 a.m. till 4 a.m. And I am here
0:55.5	recording this episode. So full disclaimer, it could be entirely incoherent and I apologize
1:00.9	in advance. But we're going to be talking today about the missing piece in a lot of people's
1:06.1	healing journey. And that is our mindset, the way that we relate to ourselves, the way we relate to the things
1:12.2	that we struggle with, and really the importance of self-compassion in amongst all of that.
1:17.3	Now, if you are someone who has spent a lot of your life pushing, hustling, striving,
1:23.3	maybe you're a perfectionist, maybe you're of the over functioning type and you have an inner
1:28.8	dialogue that tells you to just try harder and do better. Self-compassion can be really,
1:34.9	really counterintuitive and it can feel almost a little bit soft, right? We can have a lot of
1:39.6	resistance to this idea of being kind to ourselves or being less self-critical or less punitive.
1:47.0	It can feel like we're almost letting ourselves off the hook.
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