Welcome to the feminist podcast. This is Nancy Wilson. Thanks so much for joining me today.

Last week I spoke about how you can always make things worse. I thought

I might continue that topic today pushing it out a little bit into the corners. So we'll call this,

you can always make things worse, part two.

So here are a few pointers on how to make things worse

in any kind of bad situation or conflict.

One, bring up past sins or mistakes. Two, speak with a backdrop of hurt or angry

feelings. Three, interrupt often, and don't listen carefully.

4. Raise your voice.

Interrupt.

5. Speak of your great disappointment in this behavior or this situation.

Six, compared to others who are better.

Seven, attribute bad motives.

Eight, use absolute terms like always and never. Nine, assume the worst, and ten, interfere

even when this situation is not about you.

All right, on the other side, on the flip side, on the better side.

Let's consider wisdom.

Wisdom has a different perspective and a different demeanor and doesn't make things worse.

Truly, even wisdom sometimes, if not, you know, you can be wise and give wise advice but if it's not taken

things still might get worse but then at least it's not your fault.

Wisdom does not keep a record of past sins because they're forgiven and no longer relevant.

So she doesn't bring them up in the conversation.

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