I recently did a workshop and afterwards the host sent me some responses from the feedback form and it was all positive.

They said, you know, well done, we're glad to have you.

And I responded to him and I said, hey man, that's really cool, but do you mind sending me some of the negative ones?

I'd love to learn what people may not have liked.

And it's the same reason.

Even if I disagree or maybe it's just not right for them.

I still want to know so that I can personally process that

because there is a lot to learn from negative nancies. The I'm going to take it. I'm going to take it. I'm going to take it back a little bit because you talked about I we talked

about this before but now I'm kind of looking at this moment in your life through the lens of the book is that your mom passes away

You're 13 years old and I don't wish this on anybody like we all should have two loving parents who give us unconditional love, who support us, who are our

number one fans and tell us everything as possible. But in a way losing your mom and your primary caretaker there is that you have no one else to depend on.

Yeah. And so this is me playing amateur psychoanalysis here. It's like, well, if you don't turn outward for validation,

then you turn inward, or you die, basically,

because you need some form of love.

And we get it externally, but you gave yourself internal like you learn to love yourself and to just look at the world is like you know I'm an independent person operating system I don't need external inputs to tell me if I'm moving in the

right direction is that is that kind of fair or no yeah that's really well said to

looking internally instead of externally for validation at a young age because I think you know for most of us it

It does eventually flip and we learn that or we have to become that for our own kids and then it's sort of forced upon us in a different way.

But for me, it was a forced experience to have to do that at a young age and I'm grateful.

You know, I get often asked if I could go back and change things, would I?

And aside from, of course, you know, not, you know, my mom not passing away and what not, for me as a person if we're talking about me, the things that challenged me forced me to grow.

And so yeah, you know, I became accidentally, you know, a

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