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What does God really want for the sexual intimacy in our marriage?

I'm Jay Parker of Hot Holy and Humorous.

I'm Chris Taylor from The Forgiven Wife.

I'm Gay Christmas of Calm, Healthy, Sexy.

I'm Bonnie Burns of Oyster Bed 7. Welcome back to sex chat for Christian wives.

Today we're continuing our conversation with Sheila Gregor from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum.

Okay, so kind of what we're tapping at, I think goes to our next question, which is one of the common concerns I hear from parents is they feel, they don't feel qualified to talk about sex.

And we're talking about some tips, and I think there's a lot that people can gain from what we're talking about and also from Sheila's course.

But where I want to specifically get to is these are people who sometimes feel like they're

messed up on this stuff or they have sexual baggage and they just don't know how they can impart

that when they've got struggles themselves. What do you all say to that? Well, I brought a lot of

baggage into my marriage and that was something that I had to grapple with a lot. I did try to be

honest with my kids and when I would talk with them, you know, I certainly

didn't give them details or numbers.

I kept it as vague as I could, but I did say your dad wasn't the first one, and part of how

I know that this is what God wanted was to save it for marriage

was because of the ways that I was hurt. And basically, I had negative consequences. And that helped me

see that God wanted it to be something that happens in marriage because that's a safer place.

And, you know, that was more when the kids got older, that that was an issue.

But whenever they asked questions, I was as honest as I could be, even though I was not specific.

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