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ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

209: YOU SAID VS I HEARD

ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

Religion & Spirituality, Sexuality, Kids & Family, Health & Fitness, Christianity

4.61.7K Ratings

🗓️ 4 March 2014

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

Words that you hear and then say back to your spouse can have a serious impact on the issue you are discussing in your marriage. The walls go up, the conversation stops and then the aftermath occurs. Your perception and the filters you have about what your spouse is going to say can lead to ineffective behavior and communication. There are two words that can change the entire conversation. These two words are: I HEARD (fill in the blank). This week Tony & Alisa dive into why it is important to make the change from "You Said" to "I Heard" when you are discussing issues that impact your marriage. Not only for your spouse's benefit, but for yours as well. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

From San Diego, California, this is a one extraordinary marriage show where being busy is overdone

0:05.8

Romancing is fun and scheduling sex has taken the guesswork out of wondering when you're going to get some

0:11.6

I'm Tony Delorezzo your co-host with my beautiful

0:15.4

wife, Elisa. From coast to coast and around the world, thank you for joining us.

0:20.4

It's time to talk sex, love, and commitment. Give us a call at 858, 876 5663. That's 858, 876,6663.

0:45.0

In today's show, we're digging into your emotional intimacy and how what was said and what you heard impacts your marriage. It's all about perception and that's a sticking point for a lot of couples and I want to share with you this quote from comedian Lewis

0:54.9

c. And he said perception is created so quickly and twisted so easily.

1:03.0

Think about that.

1:05.0

You instantly experience something and your perception of it is, it's instantaneous.

1:12.0

And sometimes when we start putting our perception through our

1:15.1

own little filters and we get a slightly distorted version of the truth and

1:21.5

what was said and what was heard.

1:24.0

Absolutely.

1:25.0

So I want to share, you guys know we love starting the show with our one hugs, whether

1:30.1

it's an email that comes through, a voicemail that we get to play for the

1:35.2

one audience or even the reviews on iTunes. You know you guys are racking up the

1:40.4

reviews there on iTunes and we so appreciate it because that's just that's

1:44.5

public and people can see how this show is impacting your relationship and so we

1:49.8

had this this review titled Fearless and it was written by that Shields lady and she

1:57.8

says Fearless this was a quote that we had actually said in one of our past

2:00.9

podcasts Fearless is getting back up and fighting for what you want over and over again.

2:06.0

Tony and Elise fearlessly address modern marriage issues.

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