205-Words in Sex
Delight Your Marriage
Belah Rose
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🗓️ 19 March 2019
⏱️ 37 minutes
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Summary
Words are important. They can cause a wildfire or a passionate flame in your bedroom.
Outside of the bedroom:
- We can be hurtful and careless with our words and say "Oh he's my husband". Does that sound familiar? But is he really JUST your husband? That is God's son you're dealing with.
- If you want to get your words in line with God's will, one of the first things that needs to be done is to APOLOGIZE. Just get it out of the way. It's hard, especially if it's not part of the culture of your marriage. But it'll get easier the more you do it!
- When words are on purpose, intentional, and aligned with what God wants your husband to hear, then it's easy to truly become ONE FLESH. Generous lovemaking becomes more natural to both of you.
Now onto the SEXY STUFF:
- What CAN you say in sex?
- Is God okay with you saying seductive phrases to your husband?
- Could God even WANT you both to use your words to turn each other on?
- What is going to encourage the bond between you and your husband?
- If he's aroused and you're not (and vice versa!) --- how do you turn each other on?
- If you have a higher drive -- it's not your fault--but what actions can you take?
- What about fantasy, sexy texts, and whispering attractive things in his ears?
- So you might say "but I feel like I'm just FAKING IT?" or "It's not my personality". There's plenty you can do!
Sexy language is going to feel silly at first. Just like when you study a new language! As you practice it, you get less awkward and you'll push through and take courage in your marriage bed!
Resources:
- I want to invite you on a FREE 40-minute Clarity Call with me if these are things that you struggle with and you feel very far away from being able to feel free in your sexual intimacy. It is extremely gratifying when you have the sexual intimacy you and he crave! Go to this website to schedule a chat with me: http://www.dym.as.me/
- What happens at Clarity Calls? Well, we dig deep into what the issues are and I'll listen and take notes. We're going to talk about your dreams and desires and we would go through what would it look like to bridge the gap. I'm going to determine if you would be the right fit for my program and talk through the details and maybe invite you to be one of the few clients I take on this month.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast, the show where you hear from amazing and inspiring |
| 0:08.1 | wives sharing their struggles, triumphs, and advice for this journey called marriage. |
| 0:13.9 | Here's your host, Bella Rose. |
| 0:19.3 | Hey there, this is Bella Rose. Welcome, welcome. If this is your first time on the podcast, I want to say a big warm welcome. I'm really glad that you joined. Today we're going to be talking about words in the bedroom and even words outside of the bedroom and really finding your voice. |
| 0:40.3 | So I think it's really important to talk about this because words are really important. |
| 0:51.3 | We can get into a lot of trouble with words, and we can also really |
| 0:59.6 | edify and encourage and inspire with our words as well. So, yeah, I want to kind of give a little bit of maybe something more personal that I am dealing with this morning as I'm recording, is that I got into a lot of trouble with my words recently. |
| 1:24.3 | And, you know, in the Bible, it says that, um you know I think it's James it talks about |
| 1:30.9 | that you know words can start a wildfire and um like you've got to be really careful with your |
| 1:38.4 | words because if you think of like a wildfire like that destroys homes it can kill people |
| 1:43.7 | like it's really serious um |
| 1:47.2 | and then you know i uh was reading in matthew 12 this morning it says for out of the abundance of the |
| 1:55.9 | heart the mouth speaks and then it says the good person out of his good treasure brings forth good, and the |
| 2:03.6 | evil person out of the evil treasure of, out of evil treasure brings forth evil. I tell you, |
| 2:11.1 | on the day of judgment, people will give account for every careless word they speak. For you are, for your words, you will be |
| 2:20.3 | justified and by your words, you will be condemned. And I think sometimes, I know myself, |
| 2:28.6 | and I think times, sometimes a lot of us were like, but I had such good intentions. |
| 2:36.9 | And then it's like, okay, but what did you say? |
| 2:39.9 | What were the words that you said? |
| 2:57.1 | And I know for me, you know, by God's grace, as this ministry grows and as, you know, he uses me in my strength zones more and more, I have to be more and more attentive to my character and making sure that my heart is good, right? Because it says out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth |
| 3:11.0 | speaks. And, um, you know, if you've listened to me for a while, you know that there are |
| 3:18.9 | things that I've talked about. Um, but you know, we all forget. So I might have talked about something that you listen to today |
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