206-Playful sex life

Delight Your Marriage

Belah Rose

Sexuality, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness, Christianity

4.7 • 589 Ratings

🗓️ 26 March 2019

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

Productiveness IS good, but we forget that we're not just human doers -- we're also human beings.

Take the story of Martha and Mary. Martha was working hard and being productive FOR JESUS. Mary was calmly sitting, being still and LISTENING TO JESUS. Both were Godly women. And Jesus even defended Mary for "choosing the good part" when Martha accused her of not DOING.

Consider how Jesus modeled JOY and DELIGHT -- not just productivity. He certainly "did" a lot, but he also had breakfast with his friends, ate dinner and drank wine (sometimes he was even accused of being a drunkard!) and little children ran to him. He must have been pretty enjoyable to be around if even little children want to run up to the revered Rabbi.

If you are ALWAYS thinking that "God wants me to be productive. I need to do this and that..." then I challenge you to sit back, listen to Him, and just take delight in His presence.

We can also apply this to our sex lives. What if sex was fun and filled you up? And it's not just about sex. Being FUN and PLAYFUL in the bedroom EXTENDS to how you interact with your husband daily.

In this podcast episode, you'll discover...

Why sex can actually be fun!
Sex doesn't have to be miserable - I encourage you to reverse it even if you've endured it for years and years!
It can still be passionate, playful, purposeful --- like how it was in the beginning!

How does fun and playful sex affect us:

We empathize easier with our husbands and other people too
We rewire our brains to see, think, and do as God wants us to
When we're not constantly doing and we have margin in our lives that comes through playing

We serve a God that loves us. He want us to know that:

His love is deeper and wider and truer than we can imagine.
He truly wants us to enjoy our lives.
He created physical stimuli like laughing when we are tickled. Why? Because all the joys we feel when hugged, kissed, or touched --- it is proof of God's unfathomable deep and true love for us.

SCARED to START BEING PLAYFUL? I'm curious where that fear is coming from? I have Clarity Calls set up especially to get at the root of how you feel underneath the behavior.

If you go to www.dym.as.me for a 40-Minute FREE conversation with me to understand where you are in your marriage.

If you're distraught or even if you're on the edge of divorce, by God's grace, a Clarity Call may be exactly what you need to gain hope and discern next steps FOR YOU.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast, the show where you hear from amazing and
0:07.6	inspiring wives sharing their struggles, triumphs, and advice for this journey called marriage.
0:13.9	Here's your host, Bella Rose.
0:20.0	Hey there, Bella Rose here. I just wanted to take a moment to talk about really why sex can actually be fun.
0:35.2	You know, I've been doing this podcast and this ministry for several years,
0:40.1	and I'm so grateful for it. I'm so grateful for the women that share with me and really open up to me,
0:46.4	not just through my clarity calls, free clarity calls. If you're interested, I love talking to women
0:52.2	one-on-one to really understand the obstacles. Why are they not enjoying
0:57.6	the marriage that they long to enjoy, whether it's, you know, one that's passionate and playful
1:05.4	and purposeful or just not miserable like they've been enduring for maybe years and years. And,
1:14.4	you know, by God's grace, I really get a chance to walk women through, you know, what obstacles,
1:21.4	what they're, what's the difficulty right now. And ultimately, where do they want to go and see
1:27.2	how we can bridge that gap and potentially
1:29.9	I'll talk through if it's a fit to work with me directly. So I encourage you just go to
1:35.9	www.dd.d.m.a.s.m. as. I'll have the link in the notes. But go there and so we can have that, let's say, 40-minute conversation.
1:48.4	It's free and you and I can really share and understand where you are and really be a listening
1:55.8	ear for you.
1:57.3	But a lot of times these women will tell me of how difficult their marriages are. And, you know, I listen because that's really what a clarity is calls about is helping them get clear on what the challenges are.
2:11.6	Because a lot of times we don't face those things. We don't look at those things because they're too hard. And instead, we numb them
2:18.6	and we numb ourselves away from them. And I've been a number. For me, emotional eating is my
2:27.0	numb coping mechanism of choice. And that's not good. But I will say that, you know, at my worst, that's what
2:38.0	my numbing mechanism is. But we all have it, essentially. But what I want to really encourage you to
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