Hello again, this is savvy psychologist and I am Dr. Ellen Hendrickson and every week I'll help you

meet life's challenges with evidence-based research, a sympathetic ear, and zero judgment.

There may be 50 ways to leave your lover, but there are a zillion ways to compare yourself to others.

And all of them lead to feeling bad about yourself.

Grades, sports, job title, income, career advancement, social media,

followers house size. It never ends. Plus, it's exhausting and demoralizing. Now, comparing yourself to others happens at every age from

noting who has the best toys in the preschool sandbox to whose grandkids got

into what college. But comparing oneself to others is especially

rampant among young adults. That's because life-changing milestones happen quickly at that age and often. Graduations, engagement, career

advancement, and it's all on display on social media, the mother load of FOMO-inducing social comparison. Now the technical term for

comparing yourself to others is upward comparison and this means comparing

ourselves to someone we perceive to be better off or more proficient than ourselves.

By contrast, there is also downward comparison, which is comparing ourselves to those worse off or less proficient, like

there but for the grace or less eloquently sucks to be them. Now comparisons may

be part of human nature.

I'm sure cavemen once envied their neighbors cooking fires and wheels,

but when it gets out of hand, it leaves you feeling inadequate and insecure.

Not to mention depressed and anxious.

So, what to do?

Well, this week, by request from an anonymous listener, we will cover five ways to stop comparing yourself to others.

And let's get into it with tip number one, which is feel the power.

People with power, so those in influential or leadership

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