198. Dr. Tracy D on Reconnecting With Your Partner
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🗓️ 11 September 2023
⏱️ 47 minutes
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Summary
It is a well known fact that ⅔ of couples report decreases in their marital satisfaction in the first three years after having a child. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is back on the show with us today to talk about what happens after those first three years. How do we reconnect with our partner?
Dr. Tracy is a mom to two kids, a wife, and has over 15 years of practice as a clinical psychologist. She gives us advice on how we can find the passion in our relationship again when we are in the thick of raising littles. And it doesn’t have to be these big extravagant date nights. It’s more about the little things like a text in the middle of the day to let your partner know that you’re thinking about them.
Do you feel like your relationship with your partner is transactional? Or when you do get a chance to sneak in a date night - do you only talk about your kids? Dr. Tracy explains how we can go from the mundane conversation of, “how was your day” to the four “C’s”; curiosity, compassion, connection, and collaboration.
What we love about Dr. Tracy is that she shares her own, personal experiences with us as well. Which is one of the touch points in her upcoming book; I Didn’t Sign Up For This. In her book Dr. Tracy writes about the importance of sharing the stories of other couples, and her own, to help her clients relate and feel less alone.
Episode 93; Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 1
Episode 94; Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 2
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Dr. Tracy’s Book; I Didn’t Sign Up For This
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| 0:00.9 | And when we think about what's so important in our relationship, we need to have that spark, |
| 0:04.9 | we need that passion, that curiosity for the other person, and Amy, it's like, oh, I'm learning |
| 0:11.5 | something new about my partner by asking this question. And that is intriguing, and that creates |
| 0:18.3 | anticipation, intention, and excitement. And those are key ingredients that we need in our |
| 0:23.9 | relationship that we once had early on. It's just that we lose having that over time. |
| 0:33.1 | I'm Amy, and I'm Abby, and as women, we are constantly comparing ourselves to others. |
| 0:40.1 | But your life isn't supposed to look like hers. Being your best self means standing firm in your |
| 0:45.7 | decisions, and always being willing to grow with a purpose. We get vulnerable and real, |
| 0:51.1 | with an honest look into the challenges and triumphs we all face. Every woman listening is the |
| 0:56.8 | opportunity to choose what life looks like for herself. We are excited to welcome Dr. Tracy |
| 1:06.7 | D back on the podcast today. So Dr. Tracy joined us for two episodes on how to navigate relationships |
| 1:11.9 | with our in-laws. So those episodes were back 93 and 94. And as a therapist who supports women, |
| 1:18.8 | she just has so much to offer in this interview. She just shines so brightly, specifically on |
| 1:23.0 | partner dynamics and how to reconnect after kids. A lot of stats are thrown out, a lot of tangible |
| 1:28.2 | tips are thrown out. So we know you're going to get so much from this episode. Also know that Tracy |
| 1:33.2 | is a mom of two. She's a wife, and she has spent 15 years in practice. So she's bringing up a lot |
| 1:37.4 | of her personal experience in this episode, as well as couples who have been in her therapy room. So |
| 1:41.7 | with that, let's get into our interview with Tracy. Dr. Tracy, we know the statistic that two |
| 1:47.2 | thirds of couples report experiencing decreases in their marital satisfaction in those three years |
| 1:52.8 | after having a baby. And that's a long time. Like three years is a really long time, especially if |
| 1:57.2 | you're like Amy and I, and we're having three kids eat, it just feels like so long. What happens |
| 2:03.2 | at the end of those three years? Like I would like to imagine that it just magically people reunite, |
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