197: Breaking Up With Green Flags

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Sabrina Zohar

Relationships, Mental Health, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 5.5K Ratings

🗓️ 10 April 2026

⏱️ 36 minutes

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What happens when you have to end a relationship with someone who did nothing wrong? This episode covers the breakup nobody prepares you for: leaving someone good, or being left by someone who simply "isn't feeling it." Sabrina breaks down why love and alignment are not the same thing, how to tell the difference between a rough patch and real incompatibility, and why these breakups can hurt more than the ones with an obvious reason. Whether you're carrying the guilt of leaving or the confusion of being left with no explanation that makes sense, this episode helps you stop internalizing someone else's feelings as a verdict on your worth. Sabrina shares her own story, the science of breakup recovery, and a tool of the week with journaling prompts for both sides. Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?" If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code SABRINA at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with Lola Blankets Download the Poshmark app and use code sabrina when you sign up to get $10 off your first purchase, or shop now at Poshmark.com/sabrina and get $10 off your first purchase. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina ============================= Chapters: 00:00 The Breakup Nobody Talks About 01:54 When Nothing Is Wrong on Paper 06:46 Choosing Yourself Feels Scary 09:22 Why Love and Alignment Differ 15:30 The Brain Science of Heartbreak 21:15 Guilt vs Grief After a Breakup 23:23 Stop Outsourcing Your Validation 26:32 You Were Enough, It Was the Fit 28:17 How to Know If You Should Leave 31:27 Tool of the Week: 7 Day Journal Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Let's go.
0:01.0	Don't miss the UK's number one movie.
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0:06.3	It's a super-powered adventure.
0:09.5	Woohoo!
0:12.7	This April, pack our things.
0:15.1	The galaxy gets even bigger.
0:17.8	He knows that's my bike, right?
0:22.6	Yes!
0:24.6	The Super Mario Galaxy movie in Cinemas Now.
0:29.6	This episode is for two people.
0:31.6	The first person is sitting across from someone kind, someone consistent, someone who shows up and treats you well, and you feel the worst person alive because all you can think of like this isn't it. Nothing happened. They didn't cheat. They didn't lie. They just aren't your person. And you've probably known that for a while. The second person is the one who just got told, I just don't feel like I have what I need to fully commit to this. And you're sitting there like, what the fuck does that even mean? I did everything right. I showed up. I was consistent. I was kind and it still wasn't enough.
0:57.4	I've been both of these people. I wanted to talk to you today about both because this is the
1:01.6	breakup nobody prepared you for. Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of the
1:06.8	Suburnaz O'Harship. My name is Suburnaz O'Har and I am your host. Babes, this is a highly
1:12.2	requested episode, one that I think nobody really talks about, breaking up with somebody
1:17.1	when there's no obvious reasons to break up with them. I have been there. I have been on both
1:22.3	sides of the coin and as shitty as it feels on both sides of the coin, we're going to talk about
1:26.4	it all. And I'm so excited. This isn't about the toxic relationships or red flags. This is about the one where the person is genuinely good and it didn't work out. We're covering both sides, the guilt of leaving and the confusion of being left. The science of why your brain mixes feel impossible no matter what side you're on. Why love and alignment are not the same. But as always, stick around until the end because there's a tool of the week and it's something you can literally use tonight no matter which side of the coin that you're on. And guys, as always, thank you again for everything. I love you guys. You are literally the reason that I'm fucking here. And I'm so grateful the book. We're getting there. We're getting
2:00.9	closer and closer. Don't worry. Pre-orders have not opened up yet. But when they do, I will be screaming it from the rooftops because I'll need your help. If you guys need anything, you can join one of the courses we have the Going Slow or the Healthy Dating Foundation course. You can work one-on-one, ask a question, join one of our just free guides and be in the community or just be here. If you guys need ad free, feel free.
2:19.2	Everything will be in the show notes.
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