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BiggerPockets Money Podcast

189: Revenge Spending: How It’s Sabotaging Your Financial Relationship

BiggerPockets Money Podcast

BiggerPockets

Investing, Education, Business

4.53K Ratings

🗓️ 19 April 2021

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Summary

Getting a finance degree doesn’t make you a great investor or saver, that’s what Teri Slater, personal finance coach found to be true after completing her degree. From a relatively early stage, Teri had already racked up student loan debt, a car loan, and credit card debt. She pulled herself out of debt and felt accomplished, but after she got married and bought her first house, she found herself back in debt. About $200k in debt! Teri and her (then) husband had high incomes, a nice home, children, and a couple of dogs. From the outside, it looked like they were doing phenomenally, but inside the home, Teri and her husband were barely scraping by with enough money to pay the mortgage every month. They had credit card debt, a car loan, a truck loan, business loans, and a HELOC (home equity line of credit) against the house. They were completely surrounded by debt.  They decided to attend Financial Peace University sessions and take the baby steps to get out of debt. Teri still felt embarrassed at the end of the meetings and was hesitant to disclose how they were doing financially. It took her and her husband years to get out of hundreds of thousands in debt, but as of 2018, Teri is debt free! Now she puts a generous amount towards her after-tax and pre-tax retirement accounts, and helps teach others how they too can be on a path to financial freedom. Teri knows first hand how hard it can be to talk through financial situations with your partner. She goes through some tactics to get your partner on the same page as you and create clear goals, all without revenge spending!  In This Episode We Cover Staying out of debt when you go to college  Diagnosing the behavioral issues around debt  Getting out of debt and staying out of debt  Keeping up the momentum when you’re paying off large amounts of debt  How to stop “revenge spending” when you feel it coming on And So Much More! Check the full show notes here: https://www.biggerpockets.com/moneyshow189 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

Welcome to the bigger Pockets Money Podcast,

0:02.3

show number 189, where we talk with Terry Slater

0:05.6

about changing your mindset and habits

0:07.6

in order to get out of debt.

0:09.4

There was no question about what the end goal was

0:12.7

and the end goal was no more debt, right?

0:15.2

We're paying this off and there's not any more debt.

0:17.4

So that was just a line in the sand that was drawn back

0:21.2

when we first started, which was around 2012.

0:23.4

So that line had already been drawn.

0:25.9

So we knew that we weren't gonna cross that.

0:27.7

But I think even if it is like kind of smooth sailing

0:31.7

or you're not facing $200,000 in debt,

0:34.6

it's a smaller hurdle.

0:36.8

Either way, for some people,

0:40.8

they can go with it with an intensity

0:43.5

that is just like, I don't care if I sleep at night,

0:46.4

I don't care if I eat,

0:47.5

I'm just gonna work, work, work and pay off the debt.

0:49.5

And for some of us, we really need to kind of build in

0:54.1

these other tiny rewards.

0:56.5

And so I'm kind of an advocate for that.

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