My job is to somehow make them curious enough, persuade them by hook or crook to get more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there just to bring it out.

This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means necessary.

Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing or intimacy disorders and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow in your self-worth.

I'm Shrinella Shay, love edition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello, welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's Hill. I'm sending you all so much love and I hope that you're having a great day wherever you are.

It is May. It is, well I'm recording this on the first day of May but it's going to be uploaded at the beginning of May and if you're hearing the states, that means that it is Mother's Day Month.

In a few weeks we will be celebrating Mother's Day and Mother's Day can bring a lot of different emotions based on all of our stories.

For some people it can bring a lot of joy and happiness and excitement and gratitude for others. It can bring a lot of sadness and yearning and longing and regret and anger and rage and confusion and helplessness and hopelessness.

For many of us it's a combination of all those emotions and grief and a lot that goes with it and so this is a very tender time for many of us.

For those of us who ignore it and say it's another day and for others who can't and for others who don't because it's a day of celebration for them.

So I try to always just hold space around that time and so a few years ago during COVID I had a Mother's Day workshop where I talked about dealing from mother wounds.

And so this year I'm going to do another workshop but this time it's going to be focused on how to cope when you have a conflictual relationship with your mother as an adult.

So for some of us as we have gotten older things have gotten better with our mothers maybe they've started off conflictual and we became friends.

For some of us we've always been friends with our mothers and so that's been a blessing.

And for some of us we've tried to do our own work we've tried to send our moms articles we're trying to try to drop sees for therapy and it just hasn't gotten better if anything has gotten worse.

And especially the more you've worked on yourself the more you're aware of how triggering and hard this is.

And so on Thursday May 11th at 630 PM CST we are going to have a workshop that we're going to be talking about that.

So how to cope with the triggers that are coming up how to share boundaries or if you're in a situation so many of my clients so many of y'all live with your family members.

You're in close proximity with them culturally it's not as simple as going into no contact you know and so how do you manage communication when it is forced and needed to be present.

How do you forgive what's going on how do you not let your identity be as wounded as it is when the person who has given birth to you or the person who has been a mother figure for you if they did not give birth to you has hurt you in that way.

So that is going to be a workshop for this month as y'all can see I'm trying to do smaller workshops here and there so that more people can have access to support and help and also wanting to us to have more ongoing healing you know the recovery school program is for our base foundation to to heal all these wounds good as a new patterns and in the everyday we want to make sure that we're constantly doing our emotional work to to stay present with what we need.

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