187: Am I Falling For The Idea Of Them? W/ Damona Hoffman

The Sabrina Zohar Show

Sabrina Zohar

Relationships, Mental Health, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 5.5K Ratings

🗓️ 10 February 2026

⏱️ 47 minutes

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In this episode, Sabrina sits down with dating expert Damona Hoffman to unpack how fairy tales, rom-coms, and modern dating apps fuel obsession, fantasy, and anxious attachment. They break down why texting chemistry, dopamine loops, and “potential” keep people stuck in confusing dating dynamics—and how to shift from chasing sparks to choosing emotional safety, clarity, and real connection. If you’re tired of mixed signals, hot-and-cold behavior, situationships, or questioning someone’s attachment style, this conversation reframes dating through grounded psychology and nervous system awareness. You’ll learn how to stop romanticizing unavailable partners, identify emotional unavailability early, and date with intention instead of fantasy—so you can build a healthy, secure relationship rooted in reality, not wishful thinking. Want to have your submission appear on a future show? Send in your stories, questions, or dating profiles to inthetrenches@sabrinazohar.com Get 'F the Fairy Tale' by Damona! If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE! If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Dating Myths & Fairy Tale Fantasy 04:18 – Obsessing Over Potential vs Reality 08:12 – Texting, Dopamine & False Intimacy 13:05 – Good Morning Texts & Anxiety Loops 18:02 – Why Sparks Don’t Equal Compatibility 23:11 – Emotional Unavailability Explained 28:07 – Mixed Signals & Hot-Cold Behavior 33:02 – Attachment Styles vs Real Behavior 38:06 – Emotional Intimacy & Secure Love 42:10 – Dating With Clarity, Not Fantasy Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:25.1	Twinings.
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0:31.2	Disney lied to us.
0:32.7	They told us that there's going to be somebody this Prince Charming that comes and swoops you up
0:34.9	and is everything you've ever wanted
0:36.4	and they're going to be one true love's kiss.
0:38.8	And then you got the rom-coms and you've got all of this social pressure that we have to be into this
0:42.9	fucking fantasy in order to get love. And then that's why as adults we become so obsessed with the
0:48.1	idea of people and really their potential. But at the end of the day, are you looking at what is or what if?
1:32.8	Hello, hello, hello. And welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show. My name is Sabrina Zohar, and I am your host. Hi, friends, we're in the trenches. Today, I have my friend, De Mona Hoffman. She is amazing. She is a dating and relationship coach, and she is just an all-around amazing woman, woman. And we are talking about the myths and the fairy tale and really how you can be present and grounded when you're dating and not be obsessed with the idea of people and their potential. Guys, as always, if you need anything, please don't forget to rate and review the show. Please leave a comment, share it with your friend. It means the world. If you want ad-free or if you want to slow down the speed of the show, you can manually do that on your player or everything is in the show notes.
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1:39.7	Without further ado, let's get right on into it, shall we?
1:41.6	Hello, Ms. DeMona.
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