Welcome to the My Buddy Green podcast. I'm Jason Walkab, founder and co-ceeo of My Buddy Green and your host.

Hey everybody, happy Valentine's Day, and in spirit of Valentine's Day, we're going to go deep on relationships with Dr. Margaret Paul, the best-selling author, relationship expert, who's cancelled individuals and couples since 1968,

so even before I was born. She's the author and co-author of nine books, and the co-creator of the powerful inner bonding healing process and one of my all-time

favorite Myambody Green contributors who also happens to be prolific.

And today, on Valentine's Day,

it's fitting that we talk about all things relationships.

The good, the bad, the open ones,

when to leave a relationship, and get this, of course, narcissists, and Dr. Paul

actually thinks you can make it work with a narcissist.

It's going to be a fun one.

Margaret, welcome.

Thank you so much.

It is so great to have you here.

I've been such a fan of all of your great posts on My Buddy Green for years and you're finally here.

It's about time. So for today we're gonna we're

gonna talk about people who are looking for a great relationship and then we're also going to talk about people who are in a

relationship and want to make it better. So let's start with the first bucket and why do you think people have difficulty finding a good relationship in the first place?

Let's start there.

Well, one of the things is that we attract at our common level of woundedness or our common

level of health.

And that means our common level of either abandoning ourselves or loving ourselves.

And so if we're abandoning ourselves, which so many people do, they don't realize it, but they abandon themselves by judging themselves

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