182. What to Do When Everyone Around You Takes a Shame Approach
Overcome Pornography for Good
Sara Brewer
5 • 679 Ratings
🗓️ 8 July 2024
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
If you’re learning new skills related to your porn use, they’re changing your life, and you’re feeling the benefits, but other people don’t get it, you’re not alone. Many people find themselves in situations where they feel relentlessly attacked by shame messages. While it might feel like it’s hindering your healing process, the truth is your power doesn’t come from other people finally getting it.
Learn what to do when everyone around you takes a shame approach to porn. I’m showing you how your peace and freedom come from not participating in these narratives, some ways you might choose to step out of the line of fire, and how, when you learn to do this, you can make a much bigger difference in your community.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.centerforovercomingpornography.com/blog/everyone-shame-approach
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast, episode 182. What to do when |
| 0:06.8 | everyone around you takes a shame approach. Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good |
| 0:12.6 | podcast where we take a research-based, trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting |
| 0:19.6 | porn. |
| 0:25.9 | This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of lives. |
| 0:27.9 | I'm your host, Sarah Brewer. |
| 0:32.3 | Hey, everyone, welcome to today's podcast episode. |
| 0:35.6 | We've had some really great Ask a Coach episodes. |
| 0:55.3 | I hope you all have been enjoying those as much as I have. We really have the best coaches in Overcome Pornography for Good. I take my hiring process really seriously and we get tons of applications. And, you know, I really choose carefully and I always do a lot of training with my coaches as well. |
| 0:57.0 | They have to have certain certifications. |
| 0:58.5 | They have to have certain amount of experience. |
| 1:04.1 | They have to fit the mission and then they have to, you know, undergo training with me. |
| 1:08.8 | And so they're all fabulous and I just trust them all so, so much. |
| 1:13.8 | I want to hop into a message today that we kind of covered when I did the Q&A episode. Someone had asked, you know, well, what do I do when it seems like everyone |
| 1:20.5 | around me is making this really difficult and they're using the shame approach and feels like |
| 1:26.0 | my church and my partner and even my state |
| 1:28.4 | that I'm living in are really into the porn panic and fear and shame methods. What do I do? |
| 1:35.6 | And this, you know, has been coming up quite a bit and it's difficult. It's hard. It's hard to |
| 1:40.8 | work through. So first thing I just want to say, if this is you, if you're |
| 1:44.5 | like, learning all these things, it's changing your life, it's such a good thing, you're feeling |
| 1:48.4 | the goodness of it all. And other people maybe don't get it or other people aren't willing to |
| 1:54.5 | listen to it or other people haven't seen it yet. Oh, that can be a hard place to be. And so tons of compassion and love and just, |
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