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The SelfWork Podcast

180 SelfWork: What Do Crying and Emotional Intelligence Have In Common?

The SelfWork Podcast

Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD

Education, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Self-improvement

4.81.3K Ratings

🗓️ 15 May 2020

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Summary

I’ve watched hundreds of people cry over the years. Some will do everything in their power to stop it while some allow them to come easily. But it’s a very moving moment when you see and feel someone break through some emotional wall or barrier they had built – and allow themselves to connect with sadness or pain that’s been silently carried for far too long. In fact, it’s quite an honor to be allowed into that emotional space.

In this episode. sponsored by BetterHelp, we’re going to talk first about crying  But then we’ll define emotional intelligence (EI) and identify what positive psychologists believe its importance to be. And the good news? You can build EI. We'll discuss the four pillars of emotional intelligence, basically what it's based on, and as always, what you can do about it.

The listener email for today is all about trying to help a parent (or it could be a friend or loved one) fight against loneliness and depression.

Important Links:

BetterHelp, the #1 online therapy provider, has a special offer for you now!.

A well-written article on crying by Dr. Nick Knight.

An article by Nicole Fisher in Forbes Magazine about how the brain processes physical and emotional pain

An  article in The Atlantic. on the darker side of emotional intelligence.

Maria Conceição Serraon on the four pillars of emotional intelligence.

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You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive one weekly newsletter including my weekly blog post and podcast! If you’d like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome!

My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

And there’s a new way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You’ll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you’re giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I’ll look forward to hearing from you!

 

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Transcript

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0:00.0

This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

0:13.0

At self-work, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world

0:19.0

and what to do about them.

0:20.0

I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work.

0:29.0

Hello and welcome or welcome back to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford, I'm a

0:34.4

clinical psychologist. I've practiced in Fable Arkansas for over 25 years and I'm

0:39.9

so glad you're here. I started self-work because I wanted to reach out, try to address the

0:45.2

stigma of mental health treatment, let you listen to a real-life psychologist, I guess.

0:50.9

But I wanted to reach those of you who are already quite comfortable with psychological emotional issues, maybe you're already in therapy.

0:57.0

Also to those of you who may have just been diagnosed with depression or anxiety or some other kind of mental health condition and

1:05.0

you'd like some answers but I also wanted to reach those of you who might never

1:09.6

consider going to a therapist but you're just curious enough to listen to a

1:14.0

podcast. For today's episode I'm delighted to say that we have a sponsor, Better

1:18.5

Help, which is the number one online therapeutic program and they have a special offer for you today

1:24.4

which I'll talk about a little later in the episode. I cannot believe this is my

1:28.9

180th podcast. Oh my goodness so I was thinking about trying to get really cute and do an

1:36.3

episode called, do it a 180 or something like that. But I got curious about

1:42.1

something and I was looking it up. I found a whole bunch of really cool stuff about tears.

1:47.0

Now I've watched hundreds of people cry over the years.

1:50.0

We all know that some will do everything in their power to stop it while some allow them to come

1:54.4

quite easily.

1:56.0

Others fight them, but then lose the battle.

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