I'm not going to bullshit you and tell you that this is your year. I'm not going to tell you that love is coming or you just need to manifest harder or believe more. What I'm going to tell you is this. You get to decide who you're going to be in your relationships this year. Whether that be romantic, personal, professional, it doesn't matter. Not what's going to happen to you, but how you're going to show up. And that's the only thing that's ever been in your fucking control anyways. So let's stop talking about what you want to attract and start talking

about who you're going to become in order to receive it. Hello, hello, hello, and

welcome to another episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show. My name is Sabrina Zohar and I am your host. Happy New

years, babes. Oh, seriously, happy fucking New Year's.

Guys, we have a lot to get through today, but this year is going to be something special. I don't

know how and I don't know why, but I'm fucking willing it. And I hope wherever you are that you're

being gentle with yourself, whatever you did last night, whatever happened, or the night before, or the night before, it doesn't really matter. And I hope that you're being gentle with yourself because we get new opportunities today. Guys, please, as always, don't forget to rate, review, comment, share it with a friend, put it in the Facebook groups. And guys, don't forget, at the end of this episode and every episode, we have a new tool of the week.

One, I want you guys to listen to all of it.

But two, I want to give you guys things that you can actually implement. And this is a special episode. Last week, we closed out the clarity series and we talked about what you're leaving behind. And today is different. Today we're talking about what you're calling in, but not in like a vision board, light a candle and manifest your soulmate kind of way.

In a real practical, who are you becoming? What patterns are you changing

kind of way? So guys, without further ado, let's get right the fuck on into it, shall we?

Here's the thing. I don't try to bullshit the new year, new you stuff because it's one different day,

right? Like December 31st to January 1st, what changed besides

what our mental state is? But what I do want to hit on today is new patterns, new ways,

and it's a new year, right? You can become a new you. And the reason you're going to become a new

you is because of the work that you're going to do, not just because of the day of the year that it is.

And I want to go over, like, a lot of things today, but really, I wanted to first start off by saying, thank you. Guys, this year we have so much in store. Like, my book comes out this year. That is insane to say. Like, we're finally on Spotify video. We're finally able to expand our community. and we're finally able to show up in the ways that feel authentic.

And I'm so fucking grateful for you guys. Because even for me, like I had to let go a lot of this year. I really, when it was New Year's for me and it was time for me to say, okay, what is it that I want to become? Who do I want to be? And I want to continue to be the version of myself that I didn't have when I was a kid. I get to make those choices now. I don't have to be the well as me. I don't need to play the victim. I don't have to be the little girl that's waiting to be chosen. I get to become the adult she didn't have. And for that, I'm so fucking excited because that is what we can focus on in the new year, is who we're becoming,

not trying to control the outcome in the exterior of what it is that we want. Let's talk about why do most New Year's dating resolutions fail, or just like New Year's resolutions in general. So there's something called the January 1st fantasy. So every single year, millions of people make the same fucking resolutions. This is my year. This is my year for love and I'm gonna do it.

They download the apps on January 1st.

They update their profile. They swipe with intention for like two fucking weeks. Maybe a couple of dates might happen. And then by February, we get burnt out, we get disappointed, and we're back to the same patterns that we had in December. And then sometimes we're even saltier because it's Valentine's Day. What happened? The problem with outcome-based goals is that most New Year's resolutions are about outcomes. Things you want to happen to you, right? I'm going to find a partner. I'm going to get engaged. I'm going to be in a relationship. I'm going to stop being single. I'm going to do all of these things. I'm going to lose 100 pounds. I'm going to do all these things. But here's the issue. You can't control outcomes. You can't control if you're going to lose 100 pounds by February. You can control the variables that you use, but your body is going to have another fucking

thought. If you have a thyroid issue, whatever, right? Like there's a lot of variables. And so you

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