176 SelfWork: How to Stop Disappointment from Becoming Depression
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 17 April 2020
⏱️ 22 minutes
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Summary
We’re going to talk about disappointment today. Mainly, how can you keep it from leading to actual depression? We'll go through what the role of expectations play and their connection with irrational beliefs, using the model of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). We'll also discuss five important steps that can help you work through disappointment and discover the meaningful gifts it can bring.
The listener email for today is from a mom who was very angry with me – and who started to cuss me out for writing a post that her daughter had sent to her. But she managed to corral her defensiveness and let the words sit with her – as she began to be more objective and acknowledge what had occurred between them. I was impressed with her turnaround and wanted to share her story with you.
Important Links:
The article in the Harvard Business review and Winston Churchill's story
The 11 irrational beliefs as touted by REBT and its founder Albert Ellis
Dr. Sophie Henshaw's article in Psych Central that offered the structure for my own discussion of working through disappointment, a great read in and of itself. And a slightly different view than my own.
A website page that was full of quotes about disappointment.
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work. |
| 0:29.0 | Hello and welcome |
| 0:35.0 | all of you listening to self-work. This is Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:36.0 | I've lived here for 27 years. |
| 0:38.0 | I want to welcome all of you listening. |
| 0:40.0 | Those of you who perhaps are very well acquainted with psychological or emotional issues and maybe even in therapy, |
| 0:46.5 | to those of you who've been initially diagnosed with depression or anxiety or you're having a relationship problem that you just can't seem to wrap around |
| 0:55.1 | and even to those of you and maybe especially to those of you who feel as if there's a |
| 1:00.4 | stigma to mental illness and seeking treatment is the last thing you do. |
| 1:04.4 | But maybe you're just curious enough to listen in. |
| 1:08.4 | Welcome to all of you. |
| 1:10.0 | I want to thank so gratefully to those of you who've left reviews on iTunes and Apple |
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| 1:29.2 | self work there. Many of you may see the number of reviews and say, well, she doesn't need one more, but I do. |
| 1:37.0 | As the numbers grow, then more and more people just might be attracted to listen to self-work. |
| 1:42.0 | So thank you so very much. We're going to be talking |
| 1:45.5 | about disappointment today and I'm going to use material from several different sources to |
| 1:50.0 | aid in this discussion, but mainly the point is how can you keep it from leading to |
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