That's where the toxicity comes in and not allowing yourself to remotely feel these legitimate feelings of hardship and distress.

And so I find when people are able to find that right mix for them of optimism and reality,

that is the space where you actually end up feeling happier than if you just went with the positivity angle.

I'm Amy and I'm Abby and as women we are constantly comparing ourselves to others.

But your life isn't supposed to look like hers.

Being your best south means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing to grow with a purpose.

We get vulnerable and real with an honest look into the challenges and triumphs we all face.

Every woman listening is an opportunity to choose what life looks like for herself.

Today we are so excited to have a conversation with Whitney Goodman,

the radically honest psychotherapist behind the very popular Instagram account sit with Whit.

You may have also seen her information and content in dozens of publications including the New York Times and the New York Magazine.

We love this interview because it takes the taxically positive environment that many of us are living in, many of us have been in, many of us have seen ourselves in and it just gives it a little bit of a shift.

We don't want to be walking around in complete negativity but there definitely is a balance and Whitney walks through ways that we can find that balance while helping ourselves and our relationships in the process.

So let's get into this interview with Whitney.

We interview a lot of therapists on the podcast and we're always interested about why they got passionate about the niche that they serve and the topics they covered.

So we learned from your blog post why you started focusing on toxic positivity but we would love for you to share that with the listeners.

Yeah so I've been a therapist for like almost 10 years now and with toxic positivity I noticed that it was such a recurring theme in all of my sessions.

Everybody was especially women were saying things like I should just be grateful.

I have it better than other people and it was always like this caveat that came before we discussed any hardship and I noticed it happening on social media too.

And from there I was like wow this is something that is extending across all issues in therapy and it's happening especially among young people today.

It's wild because we do it to ourselves but we also do it to each other like we'll always get comments back from listeners of like oh at least your husbands come home or whatever it is and it's like I mean I it's just hard when people are stacking things up against each other.

It's so true and when we use it as the caveat before we're about to say anything like I know I know that some people have it worse than me but it's like no can we just say that this is a really hard situation like can't we just get into that too.

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