#170: Dating Q&A: Early Dating with Anxious Attachment, Navigating Texting Anxiety, Not Attaching Too Quickly, Prioritising Values Over Chemistry

On Attachment

Stephanie Rigg

Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education, Relationships

5 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 17 December 2024

⏱️ 26 minutes

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In this Q&A episode, I’m answering your most common questions about early dating—particularly through the lens of anxious attachment. If dating feels like a minefield of overthinking, anxiety, and emotional highs and lows, this episode is for you.We’ll explore:Early dating dynamics: Navigating the vulnerability and uncertainty that comes with getting to know someone new.Not attaching too quickly: Why it happens for those with anxious attachment and how to pace yourself emotionally.Texting...

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0:00.0	You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.
0:19.8	I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,
0:22.8	and I'm really glad you're here. Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.
0:33.3	In today's episode, we're talking all about anxious attachment and dating.
0:42.2	So for a lot of people with anxious attachment, dating is a real challenge.
0:42.9	It's a struggle.
0:48.1	It very much brings you face to face with a lot of your triggers and a lot of your sensitivities.
0:49.0	It really tests you in ways that can make it all feel like a big swirming pit of anxiety and stress and
0:56.9	overthinking and uncertainty. And I know that it's a real struggle for a lot of people. So in
1:02.8	today's episode, I'm going to be answering some questions that I received on Instagram around
1:07.2	the topic of anxious attachment and dating, how to navigate things like the pacing of dating as an anxiously attached person.
1:14.2	I think anxiously attached people tend to struggle with taking it slow and knowing what to do with that kind of slow burn at the start of early dating.
1:23.8	The instinct is very much to jump ahead and try and, you know, shortcut all of that
1:28.4	early stage where it's a bit uncertain and unclear. I'm also going to be talking a little bit
1:33.0	about texting anxiety, which I know is a big one, and also around being really values
1:39.5	driven rather than getting swept up in chemistry and looks and all of those things and maybe looking
1:46.6	past and incompatibility or the fact that it's not really an aligned partnership or an aligned
1:53.2	pick for you. So those are going to be some of the questions that I'm chatting through today
1:58.0	and hopefully we'll be able to give you some reassurance, some guidance,
2:03.2	some practical tools if you are someone who leans towards anxious attachment and you are currently
2:08.0	in the dating pool and struggling to navigate that and needing a little bit of help.
2:13.8	So that's what we're going to be talking about today.
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