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Elizabeth and mom. Hi mom. Hi Elizabeth Elizabeth. How old are you. I'm 17 and when are you scheduled to be 18?

December 21st. Ah okay. What can I help you with?

I am just needed advice on so I'm pregnant and I am needing advice on how to deal with my boyfriend's mom. She has been super controlling and my boyfriend's been not been standing up against her or like standing up for me at all.

I just need help like decide like making decisions not off of my own feelings and just advice on how to handle it.

You want to make decisions off your feelings not off your intellect? No, I don't want to make them off my feeling.

Okay good. How old is your boyfriend? He's 17. Okay. He's a boy. Yep. You're expecting behavior of a man. He's a boy. You're not going to change the relationship between a boy and his mother.

You made a terrible mistake. And the reason it's a terrible mistake as opposed to just a mistake is that now there's a third party whose entire future is dependent on you making a better decision than you've made up to now.

This child is not better off with you and your child like boyfriend and his disgusted mother. This child is not going to have a good life with all of that and you can't avoid it.

You can't avoid it. All the problems with him and his mother and when he married somebody else in six years.

So the future, the quality of the future of this child's life is in your intelligent decision as to what is in the best interest for a child than it is not to be brought up by a 17 year old girl.

A kid deserves a better chance than that. No matter how you feel. And that's why I wanted to make sure you could distinguish between your feelings and your intellect because the feelings, especially in a 17 year old girl, which you're a girl, you're not a woman, you're a 17 year old girl.

So I need you to push hard on the intellect part and think, if it were you, would this be the best place for you to be brought up with this chaos?

So I'm going to pray that you consider finding a family of your choice to adopt this child so that we can have a mom and a dad,

covenantly bonded, married, stable, mom stays home and this child has no chaos.

I'm going to pray you do that.

We get your head out of the dirt this sand to think that anything is going to get better with him or her. He's a kid.

You're going to do it as Mother tells him.

Yeah.

Probably forever. And you can't change that.

Please consider what's best for your child.

You have that power to make this kid's life stable and fruitful or unpredictable and chaotic.

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