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Triumph 111 Lindsay. Welcome to the program. Thank you. Hi. What's up? Hi. So I wrote an email in asking how I could. I guess spend more time with my dad. We live in separate states

and while I am 37, I never had him around growing up because he was constantly working and he's still a business owner. So he's still married to his job. But now he's taking more trips and vacations with his second wife. And I feel like why can't you spend that time with me or why can't you visit me. And it just kind of turns into arguments when I bring this up.

And your question for me. I did read your email, but your question for me is.

What what is a way of saying almost like I need more time with you rather than.

I guess the way I've been saying it is why can't you visit me and he just says because you're in another state, but I'm only three hours away and he traveled.

Okay. I'm sorry. Are you answering your own questions or I sort of need a question and then a little time to help you out.

Sure. What's the direct way that I can say I need more time with you and how to handle it if he says it or if he has excuses.

Is this a never ending question again?

I'm sorry. I was telling the person that I was so nervous. So I wasn't really prepared to be on here, but I guess I just I just missed having parents in my life and wondering either how I can get over that or how I can just

move on with my life and have conversations with my dad without mentioning why are you visiting.

Are you doing the never ending question again? How am I supposed to answer that? Come on.

Tell you what, don't ask the question again. Let me put all the pieces together.

The first answer to your question is give it up. He's not going to spend more time with you. He has a life.

He always had a life. Now he has a life with a woman and that's who he spends his time with.

That's who he is. That's who he is because you're keep calling him your dad because basically he provided this firm.

He's your biological dad. But he's also a man separate from you. He was an adult male before you appeared on the earth.

He has his own mind, his own heart, his own desires and his own interests and they don't include his children. That's who he is.

And that's what you have to spend a little time on that without you sounding like, yeah, I got it.

No, you don't got it. You are not important to him. Dads are always important to little girls and 37-year-old women.

That's a fact of life. That's the psychology of our being. But that doesn't mean you got a dad who can fit that profile.

So, at 37, you have to sit and stay. My mother had sex with a guy who wasn't really interested in being much of a dad.

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