Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello my chickens, I am recording this just as we are getting ready for a snowstorm

here on the East Coast as the first one of the season and I love snowstorms because I think they're an excuse to get all cozy in place if you can stay inside.

And pre-pandemic that felt like such a departure from everybody's normal scurrying around.

But even now that I, I mean I've always, you know, worked from home since I had a coaching business

and now I don't go anywhere either.

There's still something soothing about a quiet white landscape.

Also I'm hoping that maybe it'll mean that they stop running a bus saw in the courtyard of my

building which would also be nice. So right before I started recording this I got a text from a friend that used

the phrase making the best of things and I have been mulling over it because that

phrase sounds kind of positive but when you you think about it, it sort of assumes that things are not already

the best, right? It's like a silver lining thought. Like, oh, here's this pile of shit, and I guess I'll try to make a little shit sculpture

out of it or something, right?

I just think it's fascinating to think about the way we feel entitled for everything to just be the way we want it.

Right?

As if our wanting it, like just the thoughts in our mind

really has any bearing on what's going to happen in the universe.

I mean, of course, I think our thoughts create our results but in terms of like we sort of feel like just because we want something to be a certain way that's like a good enough reason that it should be that way.

Right like the world owes us things being the way we want.

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