You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome

insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, we are talking

about how to support an avoidant partner to open up.

So this is one that I get asked a lot.

It's obviously something that weighs heavily on the minds and hearts of people in relationship with avoidant-attached folk,

who are often anxiously attached as we know.

And wanting to build that deeper connection, wanting to feel a

greater sense of intimacy in the relationship. But I think what often happens is the ways that we go

about doing that, particularly if you are more anxious, can actually have the opposite effect.

And you can find that the more you push to try and get close to your

avoidant partner, the more they pull away or rebuff your attempts at creating more depth

and intimacy in the relationship. So in today's episode, I'm going to be giving you a few

tips as to how you might go about building greater intimacy,

creating more safety so that your avoidant partner can open and building a more connected

relationship in the process. And all of that is without being manipulative or trying to

pry them open because as a bit of a spoiler alert, that's probably what you've done

by default in the past and it tends not to work very well. So that's what we're going to be

talking about today. Before I dive into that, I wanted to share a couple of quick announcements.

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