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For so many people their confidence can start by doing something physical and I don't necessarily mean that you need to lose weight or to look beautiful and that it's like an outward thing.

But there's something for many of you that is less scary than changing your mindset. It's just like saying, okay, I'm going to commit to doing something tough physically.

I don't know if I can do something tough mentally yet. I don't know if I can do something that scares me in terms of standing up for myself or having a voice where I've never felt like I've had one before, but I know I can do something physically. That's like less intimidating.

So I want to talk to you about that and share with you how I believe that when we do things physically it doesn't just build our strength outwardly. It can often be the catalyst for building strength inwardly.

Like the first time you try something you're like this is going to be hard and I'm kind of scared that I'm going to fail and but I'm going to go for it and you get through that workout and you're like that's kind of cool. I feel really confident.

Now it might surprise you to know that even though I've been a fitness professional for 25 years, like just a year ago I started taking a new style of workout meaning indoor cycling to the beat that I'd never done before.

And it was scary because the only other times I'd done in the past I kind of felt like a failure. Like I didn't enjoy it and I thought it was too hard and it just wasn't my thing. I didn't connect to it. So I didn't help my confidence.

But then I found a style of indoor cycling where you're like move into the beat and I loved it and it was really really hard it was really hard because I hadn't developed those muscles I hadn't developed that type of endurance training in those fast intervals and because of it.

You might be surprised to hear that there here was this new form of workout that just gave me like this cool feeling of confidence.

So I want you to first think of what type of exercise do you feel like you would succeed at because I don't want you to pick a workout that makes you feel like you're going to fail.

I mean I'm not going to name names but there are certain workouts that I'm not going to do because I know enough about it to know it's not the right decision for me.

It's not going to make me feel more confident. I'll probably get injured. It's not what I want for my body.

It's not the type of challenge that I'm looking for. I want challenge. I want something that's tough but I want to know and I want you to know that you can pick something that you can succeed at.

I want you to set a goal for yourself of doing something this week physically that's a little intimidating but you just know that once you decide and commit that you might not be great the first time but you're going to get it.

And if you go to that first workout or you pop in the DVD or you try something new with a friend you just decide this is not the right thing then pick something else.

But don't decide it's the wrong thing just because you weren't good at it. I want you to know like you shouldn't be good at something the very first time you do it or the where's the challenge right.

That's number one and then I want you to identify how it made you feel like notice because so much of changing our confidence is changing the way that we think and what we place our focus is emphasis on.

When we only focus on the negative then that's what we attract more of and that's what we feel more of and that's where our brain goes and we get stuck in a rut.

So you're going to start focusing on all the positives like if you feel soreness the next day recognize like soreness is change this is my body changing this is me becoming more courageously confident by doing something that scary I want to share with you a story of one of my friends who had a very difficult decision to make a very scary decision to make.

She had to go to her family and tell them her truth. She knew that she had to tell her parents that listen I'm not going to marry a man I'm in love with a woman and I don't know how to tell them this and I wish I could change it and I wish I didn't have to feel this fear and disappointment and I don't want to have to look into their eyes and feel like they don't love me and this is a scary thing I've ever done in my whole life but I'm living a lie is scary as this is I can't keep living this way.

Even though I don't know how they're going to respond I don't know what's going to happen but I do know this I'm not being truthful I'm not being honest and I'm dying inside because of that and that was so scary so you know she decided to do first she decided first to jump off the stratosphere in Las Vegas.

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