I remember when I used to attract a lot of situations, I had no idea what I actually wanted from the other person.

It was more about me feeling wanted.

And maybe you're in the same boat. It was just about me wanting to feel wanted and wanting to feel desired, especially desired.

I wanted somebody to give me attention because then it would make me feel loved and it would make me feel a little powerful, if I'm honest, because it's like,

someone's attracted to me, someone desires me, someone's, you know, in my phone, even if it was 11pm at night, I was like,

it didn't even matter to me because all I could think of is someone desires me.

Hi, I'm Beatrice. I'm a self-love embodiment coach, a matcha stan, and the creator of the self-love over-code pendency program.

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Hello, and welcome back to the self-love fix podcast. My name is Beatrice, and I'm your host.

And this week we're going to be talking about three reasons why you desire a relationship, but attract situations.

Now, this podcast episode is not meant to point the finger at you or make you feel bad about yourself. No.

Today is about taking accountability for what you desire to experience. Something magical, something incredible happens when you decide that things get to look differently for you, and when you decide to play an active role in making that happen for yourself.

I think it can feel really, really personal when you keep running into people that make it clear in some way that they're not looking for a relationship either through their inconsistency or just flat out telling you, I'm here for a good time, not a long time, I'm not looking for a relationship or let's just see where things go or you know, I'm sure you've heard all the things. It can feel personal.

And if it happens often enough, you begin to believe it's other people, and then you begin to tell yourself and your friends stories about how no one's really serious, no one wants to commit, no one's emotionally available, all the things.

But here's the hard pill to swallow and here's the truth. Doing that doesn't actually get you closer to what you desire to see.

It doesn't bring you closer to the type of partner that you want in your life either. So let's talk about the first reason that you may be attracting situations, even though you desire a relationship.

So first things first, the dialogue that you have about the people that you date about the men that you date may not be supportive and or reflective of what you actually want to experience in dating and in relationships.

So let me give you some examples again, kind of like what I was saying earlier, having this sort of dialogue where it's like, men ain't shit, men don't want to commit, men aren't emotionally available, men are cheaters, men don't put in as much effort, men don't know what they want, men aren't reliable and on and on and on or whoever you date, go ahead and take it as it resonates.

It's like if we're doing that and if we're constantly subscribing to that, well, of course we're going to keep seeing it. Of course we're going to keep seeing it and you might be thinking, what do my thoughts have to do with what I'm experiencing? It's all them.

Every single guy I come across or every single person I come across is like this. So what are you talking about Beatrice because this is a bunch of BS.

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