159. Why Adult Friendships are Hard and How to Make Them Work with Dr. Miriam Kirmayer

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🗓️ 12 December 2022

⏱️ 59 minutes

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Summary

Adult friendships are hard. We hear this over and over again from our community. That is why we are so excited to sit down with Dr. Miriam Kirmayer today to discuss what we can do to foster, build, and maintain these special relationships in our lives.

Dr. Miriam is a clinical psychologist, writer, speaker, and friendship expert who has spent a decade researching the science of friendship and social connection. She shares with us her expertise on how we can build new friendships as adults and how we can stay connected to our friends once we become parents.

If your friendships have taken a back burner since you became an adult, this episode will strike a cord. Dr. Miriam goes into simple techniques we can use to make sure there is a match between the type of support that’s being given from our friends and the type that we are really looking for.

She helps us navigate the tough situation of ending long term friendships and identifying when they are no longer serving us. We can only entertain so many friendships at once. Dr. Miriam helps us recognize when it's time to let friendships go so we can make room for new ones.

If adult friendships have been a struggle for you, know that you are not alone. We hope this episode helps you get some ideas on how you can better your relationship with your current friends and put yourself out there to make new ones!

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0:00.0	And from there, actually, what's most effective over time is to make the conversation
0:05.3	not just about your kids, because that is a great starting point, but very often the friendships
0:12.0	that develop into something deeper and more meaningful. It's not only that other people
0:16.4	really should be about ourselves. And so if we can then gradually move the conversations
0:19.6	from talking about our kids to talking about us, or something that we just find interesting,
0:23.6	and something that we enjoy and are passionate about, that can be really helpful.
0:30.3	I'm Amy. And I'm Abby. And as women, we are constantly comparing ourselves to others.
0:39.3	But your life isn't supposed to look like hers. Being your best self means standing firm in
0:44.7	your decisions, and always being willing to grow with a purpose. We get vulnerable and real,
0:50.2	with an honest look into the challenges and triumphs we all face. Every woman listening is
0:55.8	the opportunity to choose what life looks like for herself.
1:07.0	We are really excited for this episode today, because it's a question that Amy and I get
1:12.4	almost every single week from this community. And that's on the topic of adult friendship.
1:18.1	So making new friends, feeling confident and fulfilled in your friendships,
1:23.1	keeping friendships alive as a mother and as a busy adult, like we get it. It can be a challenge.
1:28.2	Amy and I have had her own challenges, and we bring them up throughout this episode.
1:32.0	But today we have Dr. Miriam Kermeer on, and she's a clinical psychologist and a friendship expert.
1:37.6	She has spent a decade you guys researching the science of friendship and social connection.
1:42.6	And what we love about this interview and her work is that she really focuses on helping people
1:47.0	to cultivate resilience. And by cultivating this resilience, it can help you as a listener build
1:52.8	healthier relationships and live a more connected life. Because after all, isn't that what we want
1:58.4	to feel more connection? We also love that Miriam is a mom of two little boys. So she gets it.
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