158: Give Me 25 Minutes And I’ll Heal Your Anxious Attachment For Good
BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko
Margarita Nazarenko
4.9 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 29 March 2026
⏱️ 28 minutes
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If you know what it feels like to be happy and terrified at the same time, to finally have something good and spend every day waiting for it to be taken away, this episode is for you
In this episode I break down why you can have something genuinely good right in front of you and still feel paralysed by the fear of losing it, why nothing he does or says will ever be enough to make that feeling go away for good, and exactly what needs to shift inside you so that it finally does.
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Topics this episode covers: how to heal anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, how to fix relationship anxiety, anxious attachment, anxious attachment style, how to fix anxious attachment, how to stop relationship anxiety, how to feel secure in a relationship, nervous system and relationships, nervous system regulation, how to regulate your nervous system, how to feel safe in relationships, secure attachment, how to become securely attached, why can't I be happy in my relationship, overthinking in relationships, how to stop overthinking in relationships, reassurance seeking in relationships, why do I need constant reassurance, fearful avoidant attachment, anxious avoidant relationship, how to stop needing reassurance, internal security, how to trust yourself in relationships, how to stop self abandoning, self abandonment in relationships, how to be present in a relationship, relationship advice for women, dating advice for women, dating anxiety, dating with anxious attachment, how to enjoy dating, how to stop being anxious when dating, feminine energy, feminine energy in relationships, how to be unbothered, unbothered woman, how to attract a good man, high value woman, how to be a high value woman, emotionally unavailable men, how to feel chosen, how to stop people pleasing, codependency, codependency in relationships, how to heal yourself, identity transformation, feminine energy 2026.
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| 0:00.0 | Parenting, especially in those first few years, can feel like constant decision fatigue. You're thinking about routines, naps, bonding, all of this stuff is going on in your head. And there's this question at the end of it all, like, am I doing enough or the right thing for her age and development? And it might not sound like a big deal, but it does occupy your mind because babies grow so fast, and you find yourself wondering if you're doing the right things or buying them the right toys for their development and you keep guessing that takes a lot of brain work especially if you work too. That's why I love KiwiCo's panda crate for my daughter. What I noticed straight away is that how intentional the toys are for their age group. There was this moment where she was |
| 0:38.1 | completely focused and just exploring this toy and the systems that they provide, just calm |
| 0:43.8 | and curious and engaged, which had never happened before because the toys you buy at the stores |
| 0:48.2 | aren't the same. I also love that it's designed with experts even in partnership with Seattle |
| 0:53.0 | Children's Hospital, so I don't have to second guess if something is age appropriate if it's safe if she's |
| 0:58.2 | gonna eat it it's high quality and actually grows with your baby because it's open-ended |
| 1:02.7 | toys Kiwi-co's Panda Crate makes brain building play feel simple and doable and not |
| 1:08.0 | overwhelming for you or her or him. |
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| 1:28.1 | Code is being her. |
| 1:42.5 | If you're exhausted of letting anxiety, your anxious attachments deal every good moment you have in a relationship and you desperately want to find |
| 1:45.3 | a peace with the person you're with, then keep watching and keep listening because this will be |
| 1:51.6 | the last video you watch or listen to on the topic for the rest of the year, sadly for me, |
| 1:58.4 | because I like to talk about this subject. I need to make something |
| 2:01.0 | extremely clear to you, okay? There is no such thing as feeling completely at peace in any |
| 2:08.2 | relationship when the version of you shows up still does not feel safe inside of yourself. Okay, |
| 2:14.6 | so the two are not mutually exclusive. I do not care how good a guy is. I do not care |
| 2:19.0 | how consistent he is or how much effort he puts in or how amazing he is. That cannot happen if you do |
| 2:25.4 | not feel good about yourself. If the anxiety lives inside you, nobody's love or attention will |
| 2:31.1 | ever be good enough to quiet it. You will always find something |
| 2:34.7 | to worry about and you will still find a reason to fight him or to argue with the happiness you feel. |
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