159: Release Your Fear Of Losing Him And Watch What Happens (Here's How)
BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko
Margarita Nazarenko
4.9 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 5 April 2026
⏱️ 32 minutes
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If you are exhausted from second guessing every text before you send it, replaying every conversation after it happens, and never being able to just enjoy what you have because some part of you is always waiting for it to go wrong, this episode is for you.
In this episode I walk you through why no matter how hard you try, how much you communicate, or how perfectly you show up, the fear will keep following you until you address what it is actually rooted in, and the four specific steps that will finally free you from this pattern so you can be present, secure, and genuinely at peace in love without constantly bracing for everything to fall apart.
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Topics this episode covers: fear of losing him, how to stop being afraid of losing someone, relationship anxiety, how to release relationship anxiety, how to stop fearing abandonment, fear of abandonment in relationships, anxious attachment, anxious attachment style, how to fix anxious attachment, how to heal anxious attachment, how to feel secure in a relationship, how to stop needing reassurance, reassurance seeking in relationships, nervous system and relationships, nervous system regulation, how to regulate your nervous system, how to feel safe in relationships, how to stop overthinking in relationships, overthinking in relationships, how to stop self abandoning, self abandonment in relationships, how to detach from outcomes, detachment in relationships, feminine energy, feminine energy in relationships, how to be unbothered, unbothered woman, how to stop being anxious in relationships, secure attachment, how to become securely attached, fearful avoidant attachment, anxious avoidant relationship, codependency, codependency in relationships, how to stop people pleasing, people pleasing in relationships, identity transformation, how to trust yourself in relationships, internal security, how to feel chosen, relationship advice for women, dating advice for women, dating with anxious attachment, how to stop chasing love, high value woman, how to be a high value woman, feminine energy 2026
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, I want to talk about something to you today, and I'm going to be very honest with you because I'm always honest. |
| 0:13.3 | So I might as well continue being honest. That is what we do here on this podcast. And the thing is, I think about the women I work with and the ones who come to me, |
| 0:22.6 | the ones who are in my DMs or the ones who do my programs, and they are often not the ones |
| 0:27.5 | who are falling apart. They're holding it together. They seem like a swan on the outside, right? |
| 0:32.6 | The feet are going, but they're still. And they're doing it so well, in fact, that nobody around |
| 0:36.5 | them even knows that they're struggling with anything, not their friends, not their family, basically nobody. Because |
| 0:42.0 | underneath all of that holding together, there is this quiet, persistent, absolutely exhausting |
| 0:49.1 | fear silently ruling their life, basically, yeah? And that is the fear in a relationship of losing him. |
| 0:56.5 | And you know it. |
| 0:57.5 | That's why you're watching this video or listening to this podcast. |
| 1:00.3 | It permeates in the way you text him. |
| 1:03.2 | It's in the way you show up in the relationship. |
| 1:05.8 | It's in the way you constantly compromise yourself for him. |
| 1:09.0 | You overgive or over-explain or over-read text messages, |
| 1:11.9 | and then you lie in bed at night, going over everything you said, wondering if you were like |
| 1:17.0 | too much or not enough or not funny enough or whatever version of that reality you are. So I need |
| 1:23.7 | you to hear this. No amount of being more perfect, more available, more easygoing, |
| 1:31.6 | or more easy, breezy cover girl cosmetics or even more attractive is going to make that fear go away |
| 1:36.4 | for you, okay? Because the fear is not actually about him. Yeah. It was never about him. It's about a storyline. A story you've been carrying around |
| 1:48.7 | with you probably for a really long time about what it means to be with you, what it means for |
| 1:55.3 | somebody to actually be in a relationship with you. And until you deal with that storyline that you |
| 2:00.1 | believe in, you can date |
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