157: Why You Keep Attracting Men Who Will Never Commit To You
BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko
Margarita Nazarenko
4.9 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 22 March 2026
⏱️ 29 minutes
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If you are tired of being the girl who always ends up with the man who will not commit, who already knows the red flags and still falls anyway, and who is sick of blaming herself for a pattern she never chose, this episode is for you.
In this episode I break down why you keep falling for the same kind of man even when you know better, why the good guy keeps feeling like the wrong guy, why your heart and brain are in a constant war, and what actually has to change so that this stops being your story.
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Topics this episode covers: why you keep attracting the wrong men, why you attract unavailable men, emotionally unavailable men, how to stop attracting toxic relationships, relationship patterns, why do I keep attracting the same type of man, attachment styles, anxious attachment, anxious attachment style, how to fix anxious attachment, how to heal anxious attachment, relationship template, childhood trauma and relationships, why healthy relationships feel boring, why good men feel boring, slow burn attraction, self sabotage in relationships, how to stop self sabotaging in relationships, nervous system and relationships, nervous system regulation, how to feel safe in relationships, secure attachment, how to become securely attached, why I can't commit, fear of intimacy, avoidant attachment, anxious avoidant relationship, push pull relationship, hot and cold men, situationship, how to leave a situationship, feminine energy, feminine energy in relationships, how to be unbothered, unbothered woman, how to attract a good man, how to attract a high value man, high value woman, how to be a high value woman, identity transformation, self abandonment in relationships, how to stop self abandoning, relationship advice for women, dating advice for women, why do I keep ending up in toxic relationships, how to break generational patterns, codependency, codependency in relationships, feminine energy 2026.
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| 1:28.8 | Jessica, hi, you need this video. |
| 1:38.1 | You need this video because in today's episode, I want to talk about the thought that lives |
| 1:43.8 | in the back of a lot of women's minds and you are one of them. |
| 1:47.5 | One that you don't want to admit to yourself, you don't want to even admit it to your friends, okay? |
| 1:52.3 | It is the idea that if you keep ending up in the same kind of relationship that something is wrong with you, yeah? |
| 1:59.2 | Because you keep selecting the same type of person. You |
| 2:01.4 | think that you're broken, that you didn't choose correctly, and that you have bad taste in men, |
| 2:06.4 | and the past is just following you around like a bad smell. I get it. I've been there. And I want to |
| 2:10.7 | tell you right now, before you get really amped up about it, that none of that is true, which is |
| 2:16.3 | exactly why I'm making this episode today for you, |
| 2:19.7 | to show you that what is actually driving your relationship patterns and the guys you choose, |
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