My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough, or persuade them by hook or crook to get

more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there

just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means

to me. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast, where we talk about healing or intimacy disorders

and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then others.

Every episode we will talk about advice we can apply today to break unhealthy patterns and grow

in your software. I'm Shrinella Shay, love addition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin.

Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's Hill. I am so grateful to be in front

of you again this week to have the privilege and honor to be able to teach you and support you

and hopefully bring a topic that's going to help you have better relationships and particularly

particularly for this week's episode to help manage your expectations to find the really sweet

spot between balancing your standards and making those be true for you while also letting people

in and making sure that you're not setting yourself up to have a broken heart. This is, with this

said, this is going to be an alignment with last week's episode. We are in a three episode series

where I'm breaking down our heal to loved woman framework and I decided after I recorded last week's

episode that I'm only going to break down the framework once a year instead of twice a year since

it looks like they're going to be three episodes for me to do it, teach all and just review

it with you all the way that I want to do so. So with that being the plan, I still wanted to make

space for other topics and other episodes in the meantime. So we're going to come back to the

Love Avoidance portion maybe next week or the week after but we're going to come back to it

for those who are excited for that part but this is going to be just as supportive. I'm actually

pulling the audio from the the mini lesson that I talked about last week. So last week I talked

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