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I'm your host, Relationship Coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey, everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, we are talking

about how to have better conflict as an anxiously attached person. So I'm

going to be sharing with you three tips for changing your conflict patterns in your relationships.

And I should say at the outset that this is going to be part one and next week's episode is

going to be part two for avoidant attaches. So fear not, it's not something that you as an

anxiously attached person need to solely fix in your relationship the way that you experience

conflict. I am going to follow it up with some tips specific to avoidant attachment.

Because I think that while there are certainly in general principles of better conflict and communication that

most everyone can adopt and benefit from, I do think that this specific experience that you're

likely to have and the things you're likely to struggle with can very much depend on your

attachment style and attachment patterns and the strategies that go

along with that. And so I think it is helpful to delineate between more anxious and more avoidant

patterns in giving out advice on conflict. So that's what we're going to be talking about today.

As I said, I'm going to be giving you three tips. If you're someone with anxious attachment

who wants to be able to have conflict. If you're someone with anxious attachment who

wants to be able to have conflict in a way that doesn't feel so high stakes, so intense,

maybe really long and drawn out, but ultimately doesn't really give you the relief that you're

seeking. That's certainly a very common experience among folks with anxious attachment,

is that there's anxiety

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