150 Trauma Heals By Connecting With Others

The Place We Find Ourselves

Adam Young

Hope, Christian, Christianity, Healing, Story, Trauma, Psychotherapy, Mental Health, Restoration, Heart, Sexualabuse, Health & Fitness, Adamyoung, Therapy, Attachment, Interpersonalneurobiology, Religion & Spirituality, Limbicsystem, Neuroscience

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🗓️ 8 January 2024

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

The opposite of trauma is not "no trauma;" the opposite of trauma is connection. To be human is to be wounded. However, wounds heal naturally when the environment is right… and the right environment for healing is the empathic presence of another person. God made our brains and nervous systems to need one another. This is particularly true when it comes to engaging your story. You cannot engage your story alone. Sitting in your favorite chair with a journal, a Bible, a cup of coffee, and a good view out your window is not sufficient to heal your wounds. But the attuned presence of another human being can change your brain.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the place we find ourselves podcast. I'm Adam Young, and today I want to talk about
0:08.1	what it means to be human. Let me begin with a likely disruptive sentence.
0:15.0	To be human is to need.
0:20.0	And to be a little more specific,
0:22.0	to be human is to need other people.
0:27.0	Now look, this is God's fault.
0:31.0	God made human beings needy creatures. This was true when you were three days old.
0:39.2	It was equally true when you were 13 years old and it is just as true today. God made you to need other
0:51.2	human beings. Now there's a neuroscientist, I've quoted him before named Stephen
0:56.6	Porgyz and here's how he puts it. He says that connection with other human beings. Connection is a biological imperative.
1:07.6	And his point is that if you don't have sufficient connection
1:12.3	with other human beings, if you don't have sufficient connection with other human beings. If you don't have that, you will become a little bit less alive, less human each day. Your biology, your body needs emotional connection with other
1:30.8	people to flourish and to thrive. You need that. Now here's a slightly different way of getting at today's topic. Here's the sentence.
1:42.0	Skin is significantly overrated as a barrier.
1:49.0	What do I mean by that?
1:52.0	Okay, look, most people think that they are physically separate
1:56.7	from those around them because of skin. This is not the case.
2:02.6	It's not the case.
2:03.9	From a neurobiological perspective,
2:06.4	it is more accurate to say that you and I exist within each other rather than apart from each other. Yes, it is more accurate,
2:18.4	is more truthful, is more right to say that you and I exist within each other rather than apart from each other.
2:26.0	Here's what I mean. When two people are in proximity, physical proximity,
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