148. 10 Reasons Modern Love Is a Mess—and What to Do About It

The Suzanne Venker Show

Suzanne Venker

Society & Culture

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🗓️ 2 January 2022

⏱️ 41 minutes

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A new Gallup poll shows that America’s trust in media has dipped to second lowest on record. This is such a massive divide in our country that I don’t personally think is going to get better. People are so far apart in terms of their worldviews that there’s just no common ground anymore,

I wish there was better news about the state of love and marriage, but there’s no question that marriage is on its way out as being the norm in America, which means countless relationships will continue to struggle as we move more and more away from a family first mentality, toward a more individualistic society.

So that’s the bad news. The good news is that just bc other people are going to struggle in finding the love and security they seek doesn’t mean you have to as well. Here are ten of the most pressing reasons modern love is such a mess—and what you can do about it:

#1: Your marriage mindset: Why your mindset is significant as to whether your relationship will stand the test of time.

#2: Prioritizing money and career over love: People have been encouraged to pursue the wrong thing! What are the effects on dating, marriage and family?

#3: The undeniable influence of feminism in our culture: Women have been taught to fight biology at every cost.

#4: Believing you can have it all at once You have to accept each stage of life for what it is and you cannot have everything you want (high-powered career, family, marriage) all at once.

#5: Not living near family: because we are a transient society, women don’t typically have family around when they have children and therefore, no help in raising them.

#6: The decline in religion: People who attend church regularly marry at much higher rates.

#7: How young people in particular think about money: Young people come to the table with a “his” and “hers” mentality. This is not marriage.

#8: The proliferation of social media: You are inundated with temptations and comparisons all day long as a social media user.

#9: Women's ridiculously high expectations: Womens’ high expectations are impeding their ability to find and sustain love.

#10: Our anti-male, anti-marriage culture

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0:00.0	From the magnificent Midwest, it's the Suzanne Benker Show,
0:11.6	where men and women are equal in value, but wildly different by nature.
0:15.7	Join us here every week as we challenge the culture's hugely flawed narratives about men, women, sex, and love.
0:22.0	From coast to coast and from around the world, thank you for joining us.
0:29.7	Hello, everyone. Welcome to the year 2022. Doesn't that sound so futuristic? I don't know. It does to me. Very strange sounding.
0:41.0	I hope you all had a great Christmas and that you are feeling stronger and more hopeful than ever
0:45.4	about the future, which, let's be honest, is super hard to do these days. I don't know about you guys,
0:52.4	but I listen to a lot less news than I used to. I've
0:56.4	pretty much checked out of politics, not in terms of being aware of what's going on, but just
1:01.4	trying to muster any gumption for anything, like caring enough, you know, because I think our
1:06.4	entire government is a mess, as is the media. And people just don't have any faith left in, you know,
1:13.0	either one of these things. In fact, listen to this. A new Gallup poll shows that America's trust in
1:18.4	media has dipped to second lowest on record. I'll have that link for you in the show notes in
1:24.2	case you want to read more about it. But listen to this. The most striking aspect of this finding is that 68% of Democrats trust the media. Well, of course, they're
1:35.8	going to trust their buddies because that's where the, that's where Democrats reside, compared to 31%
1:40.7	of independence and 11% of Republicans.
1:49.6	This is such a massive divide in our country that I don't personally think is going to get better.
1:54.6	People are so far apart in terms of their worldviews that there's just no common ground anymore.
2:00.1	The left and the right used to agree on some very basic principles, like the fact that the U.S. is the freest country on earth.
2:01.5	Well, I shouldn't say the left and the right. I should say Republicans and Democrats, because
2:05.7	I don't know, you can't even really refer to people as Republican and Democrat anymore,
2:10.7	in my opinion, but anyway, they used to agree on these very basic principles, like the fact
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