149. Stop Trying to Have Sex Like a Man!

The Suzanne Venker Show

Suzanne Venker

Society & Culture

4.9 • 650 Ratings

🗓️ 9 January 2022

⏱️ 23 minutes

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Summary

Suzanne talks about how casual sex affects women drastically different than it affects men.

IN THIS EPISODE:

1:20 Suzanne reads from Loose Girl, a book that analyzes in great detail the emotions that accompany what most young women experience when they engage in casual sex

2:27 The average guy who partakes in casual sex doesn't ruminate over who he has sex with or why he did it

3:00 Many young women have sex to feel attractive and desirable

4:30 Feeling used, or like a “booty call,” is the number one experience for women who have casual sex

5:00 Biology dictates that women carry the brunt of sexual risk while men wield the sexual power

5:25 The relationship between women and men took a nosedive when women (en masse) began having sex “like a man”— casually, with no commitment.

6:20 In generations past, commitment always preceded sex

8:10 Sex for women is NOT the same as it is for men

8:30 Even the most sexually liberal woman is surprised to learn she cannot detach the way men can

10:00 Suzanne reads stories from women who've had a lot of casual sex

17:25 A hookup doesn’t lead to the relationships women crave (MeToo movement)

18:50 - It's modern gender norms, not traditional ones, that have lead to the problems between men and women regarding casual sex

20:20 The MeToo Movement speaks to women's weakness to casual sex

Transcript

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0:00.0	The takeaway is clear. When it comes to uncommitted sex, women are playing a game they can't win.
0:08.7	Feeling used, or like a booty call, is the most common experience of women who engage in casual sex or hookups, whether they're teenagers or grown women.
0:23.5	That just isn't the case for most men.
0:34.5	From the magnificent Midwest, it's the Suzanne Venker Show, where men and women are equal in value, but wildly different by nature.
0:42.4	Join us here every week as we challenge the culture's hugely flawed narratives regarding men, women, sex, and love.
0:49.9	From coast to coast and from around the world, thank you for joining us.
0:56.1	In her book, Unprotected, former campus psychiatrist Dr. Miriam Grossman introduces the reader to
1:03.2	Olivia, a college student at UCLA who had been valedictorian of her high school senior class
1:09.0	and was planning to go to medical school.
1:12.5	After she arrived on campus, Olivia had a short-term relationship with a young man.
1:18.8	When it ended, she had bouts of binging and vomiting and ended up at the campus health center,
1:24.8	where she met Dr. Grossman. It turns out Olivia had had her first sexual experience with the young man, and she told Dr.
1:32.3	Grossman she couldn't stop thinking about him.
1:34.3	She especially couldn't handle seeing him in class.
1:38.3	Why, Olivia asked her, do they tell you how to protect your body from herpes and pregnancy, but they don't tell you
1:45.2	what it does to your heart. Carrie Cohen, author of the memoir, Loose Girl, can relate. In her book,
1:54.8	Cohen examines her promiscuous past, which included sleeping, with almost 40 boys and men.
2:01.6	Loose Girl analyzes in great detail all of the emotions that accompanied Cohen's sexual experiences.
2:07.6	She reviewed the reasons why she had sex, why she chose the boys and men she did,
2:13.6	how she felt leading up to each encounter, how she felt afterwards,
2:19.3	and what she expected to happen compared to what actually did happen.
2:25.2	At the end of the day, what Cohen wanted was for guys to like her.
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