You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships

and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey, everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, I am talking about why you struggle to let go of someone, even when you know they're

not good for you, so to speak. So this is a very, very common conundrum, particularly for folks

with anxious attachment, although I don't think that it's exclusive to anxiously attach people.

I think that the letting go of someone, irrespective of whether we logically know that the relationship,

the connection is not right for us, whatever that might mean, you know, it's something that we all can

fall prey to, that we can all struggle with to varying degrees, although I do think that those among you who

identify with anxious attachment will experience this in overdrive. And as we'll talk about,

that's normal and makes perfect sense. I've spoken many times before about, you know, why

anxiously attached people tend to struggle with breakups. And this really falls into that same category. So I'm going to be

sharing some thoughts today. It's going to be a short and sweet episode, but hopefully one that

gives you some reassurance if you're in this situation, if you're struggling to let go of someone,

some reassurance that what you're experiencing is normal and it's not something that you need to

overthink. Of course, easier said than done for all of my overthinkers, if only it were as simple

as me telling you to stop overthinking. But really, it isn't something that you need to try and make

sense of because so much of the time, these things that we're trying to kind of apply a rational lens to,

they are experiences that are inherently irrational in that they are deeply emotional.

And so oftentimes it's not a matter of making it make sense, but actually just making peace

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