Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain, the only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach, Kara Loyenthyle. Hello my chickens, how are you? I am amazing. I always say that because it's always

true. But here's why it's always true. I was just coaching one of my clients about this last week and I was saying her that our evaluation of our own mental or emotional state is an optional thought.

How we choose to categorize or characterize

or describe our own mental and emotional state.

That description is not objective, it's not a circumstance,

it's an optional thought.

So I might have a day filled with negative thoughts and emotions, but during the day and at the end of the day I can choose whether to call that a bad day or just an average day or an awesome day.

See what I mean?

I get to decide what to think about my own experience

and my own thoughts and feelings. It's not just true that a day

when you have negative thoughts and feelings is a bad day. Like that's not

objective. That's a decision to describe it that way. That bad means I had

negative thoughts and feelings. What if when you have negative thoughts and feelings

that's an awesome day because you got to learn about yourself or become more resilient or just

because you know the way I think about it is like any day that I am alive I have

decided to think is awesome because it's part of the human experience and I'm all in on the

human experience even when it sucks. This is what's so different right? This is not

like spiritual bypassing or pretending life always feels awesome.

No, what I'm saying is sometimes life feels terrible.

But I can still choose to believe that I am doing amazing

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