Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello my chickens, how are you? I am having the human experience today. I will tell you what. I have been

experiencing and processing a lot of emotion recently and it's such a fascinating experience doing this now at my current stage of thought work which know, in terms of a lifetime I'm still something

of a beginner, but I'm so far from where I was when I started.

And negative emotion used to feel so overwhelming and horrible to me that I would do whatever I could to get away from it and try to escape it, which of course never works long term.

It always catches up with you.

And now, I'm not saying I don't still have a human brain that is not that excited about negative emotion sometimes,

but now when I am able to open myself up to experience it,

I can really feel how it flows cleanly through me when I'm not resisting it.

And it really comes in waves. I think when we are resisting and avoiding emotion, what we imagine

is that if we let it in or we sort of

experience it it's gonna feel that way forever. But of course in reality if you're

allowing your emotion that's not what happens. My experience is that it really comes in

waves right so I might feel really sad and cry and then that will pass and I'll

feel okay for a bit. Not necessarily amazing and ecstatic that happens occasionally

but just like okay right like I can

carry on with my day the surface of the water right clearing after it rains then another

wave comes I need to allow that and I have some time on the other side right there's like a

cycle there's a rhythm to it there's intensity but there's also recovery I had a

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